How do you do this without scaring them away...I just got an email from an HB8 who says I have caught her at a "match.com-weary" time. If I do say so myself, my profile is pretty interesting and funny, and she caught on to that - asked me four or five questions about it.

I actually emailed this same girl more than a year ago, but since she's hot and probably gets a zillion emails per week, she doesn't remember me at all. I ended up dating someone for about 7 months and now I'm back - she was not interested at all when I wrote to her before, but now she's on the hook.

She is interested, for sure, but I have had too many chickies online whose interest fizzle quickly.

So what next? How do I capitlize on this obvious interest?


(would be cool to have an "online" forum)

We do

I'm not sure though.

I agree

so anyway, I ended up emailing this girl - answering most of her questions and she didn't respond. Today (four days after my last mail) I wrote:

Just a refresher for you: I write one, you write one, I write one, etc...

She wrote back with in 20 minutes saying: I am so sorry. It's been an "adjustment week" for me (that's what I have decided to title it, anyway) -- with a new job, new hours, and email issues. I am about to head out for a baby shower for the next few hours, but is there any chance you would be free to meet for a drink later today?


I told her that I could probably make that happen seeing as how I would need a break from my Masters program and school work...she never got back in touch.

I was going to send her an email in a couple days and just say "email obviously isn't your strong point - but I bet you're pretty good at the phone. Here's my number call me for that drink"

thoughts?

Regardless if I am free or not I always say I have plans, but then throw in a "How about Wednesday at 8? =)" or whatever day and time. Don't think too much into it, as she said shes busy as hell lately. Also, I verrrry rarely give a girl my number but that's just me.

You may have an issue with congruency. If your profile is over the top, clever and C/F and then you hit her up with lame ass shit messages, she's not getting the guy she is expecting. SO she bails.

I don't know if that is the case here.

hi alisterio,

this is a weird situation you are in.

I'm guessing she maybe a real control freak and a player

Why email someone back after all that time and then have limited time to meet? She is controlling the frame.

Its very flattering for you getting the attention and she knows it!

Are there any circumstances you're aware that would make her be desperate to re-connect? One reason I ask is that years ago I dated this girl and we got on great but she was not keen on taking it to the sex level (shyness,religion etc) she was sweet but I didn't want to keep spending a lot of time with her getting nowhere so I bailed out. About 10 months later I get a call from her asking how I was and she's wanting to meet again. I gather she was looking for someone to quickly marry and stay in the country and got the impression she was just going through all her numbers!