I recently convinced this girl i have been talking to for a while to come up to where i live, she lives in so cal i live in nev.

The main problem i will have is to getting around the boyfriend barrier, I can see her coming up to see me would be a HUGE ioi, yet i feel there will be resistance after i escalate.


any help?

By bf barrier, do u mean she has one at home?
or when she comes up she will want u to be her bf before u get any?

I really need u to define bf barrier...

I have built in auto response for when a girl mentions bf/fience/husband..

Her "I cant do that Ive got a bf"
Me "Yeah, YOU have a bf, thats not any of my business, I couldnt care less if u got a man or not, im not trying to marry u now am I sweetie?"

I normally make it quiet clear that I dont care about bf's, im a trained bf destroyer anyway so they no thing to me, its just like u say a barrier.

Make it clear that even if she is in this commited relationship, its prefectly normal for people to look outside of that to find sum interest, make urself that interest !!

Sorry I did not make myself clear, she has a bf at home.

in my opinion, the best thing to do in this situation is to treat her as if she's single. if you feel like you have to work harder because of her bf, you will get nervous and fail. you have to connect with her on different levels and just show her that you are better than her bf.

boyfriend! who cares?? just go for it...remember ur the man!

Hey Goldmemb, I know your situation exactly since I was kind of involved. Well since we had the same target I'll just tell you how I dealt with it.

Firstly: I put her boyfriend on a pedestal, I made him seem so great that he sounded like an arrogant ass.

Secondly: When she brought him up in a positive light I always changed the subject.

Thirdly: I showed qualities of an alpha male in front of her that increased my social value in her eyes.

These three things led me to win her over and full close. I hope this helps bud, we'll sarge again soon and you can test all of these things out.

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i couldn't have said it any better. what king cecil did was pure mystery method. even though i'm still learning myself, i have read mystery method and the game countless times, allowing me to be very knowledgeable on technique. i just need to put this technique into practice more often, espeically in day game which i need help with

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GEM

-practice makes perfect! don't be afraid to take gambles in life

hb "i have a boyfriend"
me "whoa whoa whoa, i just met you and your already telling me about your problems!"

this usually gets them to laugh and allows you to take the conversation elsewhere

Can you maybe explain a bit more how this step goes? I guess the point is that you want to say good things about him so she starts disagreeing and that makes her more receptive. But I can imagine it going horribly wrong, because you sound all sucky-up and beta, and I can imagine it going horribly wrong because it's obvious you're making him seem so awesome in a sarcastic kind of way. I can see it working too but it seems like this really fine line you have to walk and if anyone has any tips that'd be awesome!!

P.

I still swear by one of two methods;

1. Do you have a bf? .... Does it matter?

2. "so what is it like being in the perfect relationship" she will tell you it is not perfect dig a little get her thinking about all the problems then say "nevermind I am sure you will find a better guy soon" (if you use anchoring whilst doing this it is even more effective.

I honestly find it a dick move to go after a chicka that's already "taken"
I mean yeah, you can do it, and yeah sometimes they'll give off IOI's!!
But, and this is key, the MOST that you're likely to get will be a quick fling, which if you're looking for it, then great, but if you're looking for more (which is really what the "game" is about) then just move on!! There's a millions of that same fish in the sea my friend!!

Cheers,
=Zach=

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What's My Age Again?

At least break them up before you go for anything like that. Its fucking horrible having a girl cheat on you. Think about the guy.

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V1V

If shes coming to c u thats a major IOI , u got have a strong frame and as soon as u c her start gaming from there on

Remember mystery's Freeze Out , and u can take her where you're popular to show more DHV'S a boyfriend is just an ugly girl thats it

If she gives you any LMR freeze her out. Than wash rinse and repeat.