This is going to be a longass post so for those of you that don't want to read all of the details, I'll post a short version at the bottom. But for those of you that really want to understand what's going on and provide insightful feedback, or just want to be entertained with a good story, the rest of the post is for you.

LONG VERSION:

I've been talking this girl for a while now (22 days to be exact). I n-closed through the online routine I perfected a while ago, and we met about 10 days ago and spent two nights in a hotel together. If you've read my recent posts you already know this though.

I think for you guys to fully understand my problem I'm going to have to go into some detail here, so bear with me. This girl and I have gotten along great from the very start. It may sound corny as hell, but as soon as she sent me a friend request I knew something was up. This girl has the maddest game I have ever seen a girl have. She is an honest to God 9.2. She is a very high-value alpha female, yet at the same time she has adorable little girl qualities about her. This is by far the best catch I have ever gotten before. Luckily, I had my a-game on and teased and negged the fuck out of her until I had her chasing me. This went on for a week or more. She was always the one chasing me. (which I thought was incredible, considering where I came from, being a little nerdy AFC virgin with social anxiety).

When we finally met we had such a great emotional connection. The strongest I have ever had with a female, or with anybody for that matter. This sounds like the most corny thing ever, but I couldn't make this shit up.

So last night I drove an hour and a half up to her house to meet her family. (we have been seriously talking for quite sometime). Then we went to a movie. But the bad thing was that I had a great energy level when I got there, I was rearing and ready to go spit some hardcore game and have a wonderful night, but I had to wait on her for like 2 hours before we could go anywhere, which kind of pissed me off and I ended up wasting all my energy talking to some other chick I don't give a fuck about. Needless to say, my energy was off, so my game was off. Yeah, we had a good time, but nowhere near the amazing time we usually have together. (Could have been that the movie sucked. TIP: don't watch Bad Teacher!)

If you're still reading this then props to you. So we go back to her place and I'm about to go, we make out hardcore in the driveway, more than we had all night (we only made out once during the movie). We flirted a little, then I left. I got halfway down the road and suddenly a wave of adrenaline hit me. I had planned to ask her out that night. But the moment didn't seem right so I never did. But then I remembered the wise words of Ross Jeffies saying, "when you don't know what to do, take a bold step forward." So that's what I did. I turned the car around and headed back to her house. I called her and told her to come outside, then I made up some dumb story about leaving my cigarettes in her car. After I made her search for it I told her I didn't really lose my cigarettes, I just wanted to ask her a question. I said "what would you say if I told you we were dating?" and she replied with, "what would you say if I told you I wasn't ready for a relationship yet?" So I just played it off, maintaining high value. We made out once more before I left, and I blasted John Mayer the whole way home. I texted her once after that, saying something like "wow my fly was undone the whole night and you didn't tell me? thanks knucklead." and we had a little conversation from that, and that was it. This morning we texted a little but nothing really exciting.

SHORT VERSION:

So I've been talking to this HB9 for about 3 weeks. We had a great emotional connection when we first met and stayed two nights in a hotel, but last night when we went to a movie my game was slightly off, so we didn't have an AMAZING time, just a good time. Unlike the previous dates. I felt like it was time and I had planned to ask her out last night. I had my doubts after the date didn't go as I had planned, but after considering Ross Jeffries advice "when you don't know what to do, take a bold step forward." I decided to ask her out. If there was any chance that I thought she'd say no I would have never ever asked. But I did, and it was a huge surprising blow when she said "I'm not ready to be in a relationship". BLAM! Slap in the face. I've honestly never felt this way about a girl before, and I'm not being melodramatic. I'm really honestly tore up about her.

So what do I do now my friends? I have never felt this way about a girl in my life. I'm so tore up. Her rejecting me has just made me want her worse. Now she's flipped the script. I'm the one chasing her. That's bad news. How do I turn it back around to get her chasing me again?

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In order to get something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.

first of all, 22 days is NOT a long time.

plus, you only met her in PERSON 10 days ago....

please, you must be going on dates, for at least 5-6 weeks, and already be heavily invested in each other before you can ask her out.

your asking her out was foolish and incorrectly timed.

but your fine. the only thing is that she now knows that you want her to be your gf, whereas I always rather the chick wanting me to be their bf.

i would suggest you just continue with the flow and stop thinking about making her your gf. you actually dont want her as your GF; your goal is to bang her.

keep this goal in mind and you will be fine, plus she will want you as her bf

Too much too soon. You need to keep going out, have fun etc regardless of how you feel. A lot of people are infatuated at the start and feel like *this is it!*. You probably scared her off after such a short period of time. Back off and make her want you.

fuck labels.

just go out, have fun, and fuck her silly.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!