I've been in my relationship for coming up to 3 months now, and although that's fairly short in comparison, it's the first relationship I've been in since I got into Game last year and I feel like I've learnt so much.

First and foremost, you don't have to be a complete dick to keep her. It's perfectly fine to be nice and compliment her, as long as you're not doing it all the time, making compliments for specific to her help too, rather than just constantly saying "you're beautiful" compliment her clothing, her necklace, etc.. and make sure shes not ruling your life. If she asks you to text her when you're leaving her house, swing it around back onto her and get her to text you. Simply saying "Oh, you text me, its easier" usually does the trick.

Help her with things. Last night I was around her house and she needed to study for an exam she had this morning, instead of just sitting there, I took an active role and helped her revise, she left me a message this morning saying

"I just wanted to say thank you for helping me revise yesterday ^^ I never felt so confident in an exam so hopefully that's a good sign :3 guys don't normally bother helping me or care about my work but you're different "

So, simply by helping her out occasionally is good too.

I realize that this post sounds rather AFC, but I don't think I am being AFC. I'm still in control in the relationship, if she asks to meet up and I'm busy, I will tell her that I'm busy, instead of dropping everything just to see her. I tease her when I'm with her and laugh at her occasionally. She's said that I'm always challenging her a number of times, simply through making her do things first, asking her to get out of the bed to turn off the light, even though I'm closest to it.

And something that's also very important. BE GOOD IN BED! If you're not good in bed, shes going to be looking elsewhere for a good lay, perhaps not right away, but eventually. She's said that I'm the best I've had, and I believe her because I've also had her friends telling me that shes been saying that. When we're together, we have sex roughly 1-3 times, sometimes all within an hour. She wants sex from me frequently, and the further we go into the relationship, the more we seem to be having sex, usually, it dies down after a while.

We go out occasionally to parties and have a laugh too. So, be fun, be challenging, be loyal, help her out and be good in bed.

thats some good information here man. thanks for sharing, i've done similar stuff in the past and it's worked really well too.

I can't post a thread but this one is very similar to my problem.

I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and shit has been going down the drain for awhile now. I'm not a cheater but I've been thinking cause I'm not being satisfied. She doesn't wanna wear dirty shit, she doesn't want to make moves and all this bullshit cause she doesn't wanna be perceived whorish...AFTER I TOLD HER I WANT ALL THAT. I have to approach her to fuck and all that shit...if i don't make the first move she will just lay there and fall asleep. The spark is gone, at-least that's how i feel. Can someone help me understand wtf is going on...I'm so temped to just pull a whatever fuck it and just start going out again and mingling with other chicks...even though I'm not the type to cheat I'm tempted.

I find that even if you know all this... that certain girl can come around and make you throw it all out the window. I just went through that experience.

ok so this is cool but remember EVERY GIRL IS DIFFERENT! Like some like to be complimented alot. But EVERY girl is gonna say ur the best in bed or have the biggest cock because they like you dude. I mean come on, it's been 3 months. You are college kids...of course she's gonna say you're the best. (unless shes banged all dudes xD)

Now to the guy who has lost the spark... Tell her everything you just told us!!! Like start a fucking fight dude! While shes heated and screaming grab her and kiss her, tear her clothes off and proceed to hate sex....or you can have make up sex if you kiss her and say something like "You're absolutely right babe" (IDFK). Those are situational. Now I'm sure you personally are really bored with this girl (imagining other woman during sex in order to get off???) If it's been 2-3 years and you guys arent cool, you miiiiight just want to go on to the next one man. Like, nowadays everyone is into the first couple months of a new relationship because it's "new", and after you get comfortable with each other you find that you dont care as much. (Like ripping ass in front of her) DONT GET COMFORTABLE! If you want to keep her, REINVENT YOURSELF. Start opening the door for her everywhere, car, McDonalds, just open the fuckin door for her. Carry a picture of her around or on the background of your phone. These are examples for you to "get into her again" Like dude...in every new relationship ive been in every single girl sends dirty pics of her to my phone. Get her to do that or somethin...Once you start to like her again she's gonna start liking you again (unless she's already seeing someone else then that'll just repulse her and ultimately your relationship will be doomed). Plus you might wanna work on your inner game bro. My gf is enthusiastic about wearing kinky shit for me in bed. Mainly because I love her fuckin body and she knows it! So shes all about sex with me because I fuckin like her and I like fucking her. I mean they're dumb as fuck and easy to please come on. Dudes like you make guys like me look good man and I've taken plenty of girls in your gf's situation...and they all loved to fuck, just not their BFs...counteract this. Work out or something! Remember these are all examples designed for you to start thinking about this on your own so you can ultimately fall back in love with your girl.

i agree with 'cad'. we all know this stuff but when it comes to it and really like someone....it all go's down the toilet.

This is good advice only if you are in exit strategy. When a relationship boils to hate fucking, its OVER. Maintaining passion in a relationship takes WORK. if you aren't willing to work at it, don't bother, just fuck and leave.

Otherwise you have to treat every fucking day of a healthy relationship like it's the 3rd date. All that charming bullshit you did to get her to jump your bones... yeah, you have to keep doing that. All those games you played that made her curious about you, yup, that too. All those suave social value plays you made, damn right, have to keep it up.

The bad news is that if you painted yourself as something you are not, that shit is exhausting and it will always flop out after you lose the ability to keep it up. The good news is, that if you work on natural game and just be yourself, all you have to do is keep being you (while taking some notes on which part of "you" she likes best).

Creating passion is something that starts every day when you wake up, and every night when you go to bed. If you find yourself ignoring her and jacking it to porn instead, expect her to swat you away the next time you want a selfish quickie. That's just the way it works. If all day long you are showing her why she's so lucky to be with you, when bed time comes, it's game on, she's hungry for your cock to reward you for being awesome. It's a simple ass equation.

effort in = reciprocation out.

If you work on her, she will work for you. If you just expect her to walk in from a long day, strip down and climb on you Dirty Harry style, you either need to be beating her into fear based pavlovian conditioning daily, or expect a short period of time before she is either cheating on you, running from you, or burning your house down with you in it.

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