hi guys

i've been seeing a girl for about 2 months. She's great. She is sweet for me, nice, i can have good conversations, she's mature enough, she's funny, etc. All the good you want in your girlfriend.

Fysically; she's quite handsome. I was attracted to her the first time i saw her. She's not a supermodel, she doesn't has the nicest legs, ass, etc. But I AM attracted by her, and can have good sex with her.

Summing up: I LIKE HER. Really.

Now there is the other part of the story. I'm used to be single. To hunt girls, to bang chicks. And sometimes chicks who are hotter than her. If i'm walking on the street and i see some girls with that incredible nice ass, i fantasy about banging them so hard, and i would try to get to know them, and fuck the shit out of that hot girl - hotter than the one i'm about to settle with.

Am i such a bastard - thinking about searching the hottest girls out there and fuck them? To get a hard dick of those beautiful tits you see when u'r on the party.. ?

I feel like a coward, treating the girl i like well, but in the meantime jerking off on hotter girls i would like to get to know and fuck them...


We all have it? Even if we are together with a girl we like? To look around and have the urge to fuck those hotter girls around there?

It's human nature to still want to at least look at other women. I'm in a commited relationship and of course there are times when I'll see a hot girl and think

"Wow, I'd love to fuck her"

That doesn't mean I'm going to, I wouldn't like my girlfriend fucking another guy, so I'm not going to go and fuck another girl. Think of it like this, you like this girl, you enjoy spending time with her and you have great sex. Will another random, hot girl, whom you barely know, be worth sacrificing all of that? Just for the pure, fun of sex?

If so, you probably aren't ready for a relationship

Welcome to manland.

2 Months... is not a long time...
If you mean by settling, starting a relationship. And you currently feel good with her. I would go for it. If she doesn't meet ur standards, end the relationship and look for someone else it's not a big deal.

I would make a decision based on my emotions on this one. Not on ur brain.

P1nkstar: "standards", thats the problem?

The standards of my dick looking for the hottest girls with the nicest asses?

Or the standards of my brain, looking for a well-balanced girl who is sweet and honest with you.


Ironically, my last girlfriend was the worst one i could get, i realized that after the relationship. But when being with her - i thought she's the max i can get (she was god damn hot)

Now its the opposite. I feel she's not enough for me cause she's not a supermodel, but at the same time i know she's the best u can get as concerning girlfriend material


Its all the time the trade off between the looks (what ur dick wants) and the personality ... Damn hard.

Yea, i remember your posts on that one

Well maybe you should think if you are asking the question, you're not ready for settling down!?

I'm 25, I feel like settling down with a girl I like.

But she's from spain, i'm living in Italy.. LDR NO WAY

I feel that is more the problem than her..

Time will tell. For now i take it slow and keep options open.

But i should get a control on my dick. lol

pussy ain't got no face

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Take it day by day...no need to rush into things...but if you find that this is a relationship you want to enter...you need to leave all the games behind. It's a relationship, not dating. Trust will be given only one time and I don't want to see a post from you in 3 months about how you didn't realize that you had something great and blew it...it's on this forum all the time!

I wish you the best of luck with what you decide and if you feel like banging out other girls still, then get it out of your system, you may just like the idea of a relationship...an Idealistic...but other parts of your anatomy think otherwise.

If this girl was into you but thinking about all the hot guys she was going to pass up for you...you wouldn't like it...then to find out, she's banging one behind your back...not cool, either way, if you aren't ready, then you aren't ready...leave it at that and have a good day!

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to give an actual serious response, i am going to say this:

if "strange pussy" is still a main priority for you, then you are NOT ready for a relationship. and here is why.

all of us guys here are attracted to a lot of women. it's what it means to be a man. every day i see girls that i would bang, but i have control over those urges. i have maturity and priorities which would allow me to (without hesitation or distress) choose to be with just one woman.

now, i'm not saying you are a bad guy or that you are immature or anything. that isn't what i'm saying. what i am saying is that if you are so troubled by the notion of not having sex with "other" women that you need to post a forum topic called "about to settle, but my dick wants to bang others" then you have not reached the appropriate level of comfort with monogamy to be a good man for this girl. period.

notice, the terminology used:

- "settle" (you called being with this girl "settling") red flag #1
- "dick wants to bang other girls" (every man feels this way, but for you it's obviously a serious concern because you have posted it and even named the topic after it) red flag #2

leave this chick alone. you are only going to hurt her.

don't "settle" (to use your own words)

go bang as many pussies as you need for your "dick" to be happy

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I like your input, but you are taking my words too seriously.

The way i wrote it down was just to get the message accross. Actually, i first typed "about to commit, but afraid to miss out on others".

I have reflected by myself on the situation, and I think that the problem is not the girl itself, or the fact that i see myself committing with her.

The problem is more that she is at this moment NOT WITH ME. I'm in another country for 3 more weeks. I have NO SEX. I don't see her. I don't have any advantage of what a relationship should bring.

Consequently, i'm looking at other girls, trying to get to know them and to bang the shit out of them. Cause me = horny.

The time i was WITH HER, we had sex, i could blow my load, and i had all the benefits of her being with me. I do not remember a single moment i really had the urge to go out to game chicks and have sex with them. Which doesn't have to mean i saw hot chicks, and i would love to fuck them.. but i would never actually do it.


Bottom line is this: I just can't cope at all with a LDR if i would ever enter such one. I would never stay honest cause i NEED SEX. That's why i will also clearly tell this girl that i don't enter a closed relationship if we can't see eachother.

So yes, i WILL leave her alone, if she's going away again. I don't want to be the bastard cheating on her if i already know i will do it in advance.

Note: i'll be with her 1 month in July.

In August i go to her country for 1 week.

After this period i will have to evaluate for myself. And she will hopefully do the same. Time will hopefully tell.

so what happened, man?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

How do you mean?

Its normal to want to fuck lots of girls. If you are calling your relationship "settling", don't do it. Don't settle at all. Two months is nothing, n if you dig her keep her around. You don't have to commit to anything you don't want to. If you want to fuck other girls, fuck them. When you get into a relationship you should feel as if you are gaining something by being with her, not missing out on everyone else. Do you know what I mean? There will be alot of girls who will be into you, you do not have to commit to one just because she is really into you. Granted, I may be a touch jaded, but by the same token, I honestly feel all relationships r temporary, we just view them as eternal, n deal with all the bullshit attachment brings. All in all, if you really dig this girl, be with her. If you think she is a cool girl n you want to keep her around, yet not commit n still fuck other girls, then do that. I don't think settling should be the choice tho. Its about being with someone who, when you are around them, you enjoy yourself the most around. If its not her, no issue. Just keep being with her n hooking up with other girls. If you want tocommit, n view it as a benefit, not a hinderance, then do that. Hope this helps.

This will always occur, you just need to be happy with what you have, then, it won't matter what goes by the wayside! But if you are afraid of missing on what could be, then wait for it and hopefully you'll know when you have found it.

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