After 2 years of seeing each other casually while she travelled, dating other people, but still being in love she has now moved to my city just over 3 months and officialy been dating for about a month. She crashes over at my place most days (shes still looking for her own apartment cos shes been living with her sister) so we see each other often.

So shes just got a cool new job so we drive to work together and although i do believe we spend too much time together i dont think its causing an adverse effect yet... ill be finding the balance soon though.

What i do however find is that she ALWAYS wants to talk about herself and her stuff, and being a generally great conversationalist I tend to talk about anything and everything. From cute guys on TV to makeup to work and everything in between. I consider myself a mans man but i can pick up on any convo and just go with it.

She on the other gives me one word answers farily often if i talk about something to do with ME. Not like general topics, like a motor cycle that i like, or gym or driving etc... things that interest me. Then shell go off about something shes doing and I simply slot back into her conversation stream.

recently this has been annoying the shit out of me and ive snapped at her a few times. This morning being the last time. She is currently upset with me.



How should i handle this? I REALLY love this woman and love being with her but this trait is really getting to me.

Should I just hang out with my boys more?

Thanks for the feedback guys. hope this post isnt too long!

this was one of the main problems in the recent downfall of my almost year-long relationship. she was self-absorbed just like what you are describing.

my ex would interrupt me if i talked about myself, never gave a damn about anything that made me "me", not my music, not my hobbies, not even my jokes or witty comments, EVERYTHING was a segway for her to talk about herself. now, i'm not one of those tools who expected her to actually be "into" the things that i was into, but it would have been a promising sign if she could have at least feigned a little interest, lol.

there are people here who will give you all sorts of interpretations and advice on what you've described.

i guess take the "no pussy" test...

would you put up with that sort of behavior from a friend or acquaintance, and still keep them around full-time? (someone who didn't have a pussy that you wanted to be inside of)

if not, you may want to examine staying with somebody like that.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

To be fair buddy, keep it simple.
Get a list of things you want in a GF, and things you dont want!
If she's got stuff on the "dont want" list then say Adios, go find your 10!

Gotta think long term if thats what ur looking for... can u put up with it for years??
I know i couldnt, and wouldnt!