ok so heres the problem my gf we have been together for about 2 months now. the problem is that i think i have becomed a little bit to much of a bixtch haha. Instead of her telling me all the time that she misses me and that she loves me i feel like i do it more then her. now dont get me wrong she does it a good amount as well to. now thats not a big deal as is the rest. i feel like i have become more attached to her and seem more like the girl kinda. I dont really game anymore or not to other girls. and she dosent game but she still talks to a bunch of guys seen that she is very attractive. the problem is that she has all these talks with these guys on fb and i can see them i mean its nothing bad just small talk. but it makes me feel like she has a little power there bc it gets me kinda jelous specialy when she talks to certin guys. now what should i do should i start gaming other girls keep my options open because i know she gets jelous to if i talk to some other girls specialy ex hook ups or girls that used to like me. what do you guys do when yall have a gf do yall keep gaming other girls if so why? should i make it obvious that i know she talks to other guys such as ex hook ups or just act like i dont know or dont bother to care?

From what I see, I think you are too invested in this which can be good or bad, depending on how you see it.

1. Do you try to find the time to spend with her or is it mutual?
2. Do either of you do things alone that you enjoy?
3. Do you feel that she is in love with you as you are with her?

Regarding the FB crap, calling her on it will make you seem insecure, it's FACEBOOK. Now with that said, don't go and start chatting up girls via FB, it'll be obvious that it's a call for attention.

If you are in a relationship, it's not good to game other girls...it'll gat back to her and then there will be no relationship.

It shouldn't bother you if you trust her, but if she is actually hooking up with these guys for lunch or talking to them on the phone, then I would say something, just use common sense...even though it's hard at times, try to look at it from another's point of view, take yourself out of your shoes and what would you tell a friend in the same situation as you. Just another thought.

_________________
You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

to the OP, if you have to ask, chances are that you are.

_________________
what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

If you;re getting jealous, then why dont you talk to her about it? Gaming other girls and making her jealous wont solve the problem

Cedius posted some good things above, so I hope you read them and have thought about them. I really hope you respond back to your thread since people are trying to help...

Anyway, as far as talking to other girls...

I've been with my girl for almost a year now. I still have other friends that are girls that I talk to and I talk to girls when I'm out. I've slowly taught my GF everything about what we do so she knows I have skills and knows that when I go out with the boys, we are practicing this stuff. Since she knows everything and is cool, she can come out with us, and often does.

That being said, I have a line that I do not cross because I am in a relationship. When I talk to new girls at clubs it's just to practice opening or winging my guys. When I am in set by myself, I'll never kiss a girl or go further because it is against my values and the peramiters of the relationship.

If you can practice for practice sake, and not to get back at your GF or try to make her jelous, and you can have proper boundaries for yourself, then more power to you. But, if your motivation is wrong, then it's best to leave it alone you know?

_________________
Natural Seductive Metalanguage

I have the same problem:) i'm also at the begging of relationship (we are together 2 months) and I also feel that i'm starting to give to much. Actually i'm so fascinated with her that sometimes its hard to think rational But now it's time for a little freez, because i don't want to loose her.

Cedius sad the right things. I think that picking up other girls right now is a VERY bad idea. However you can be friend with other girls and it's a good thing to have some female friends. Your attractiveness in her eyes will increase and she will also became a little bit jelous:)

In my opinion you shouldn't show her to much that you are jelous(even if actually you are jelous as f... ) You can make some suggestions about it in the form of a joke, but thats all.

This one is hard: forget about FB... Don't spy her, don't walk on her account, don't read her posts. It's vicious and it's a trap. It can make you go crazy. Girls will always chat on FB, and it's just the way it is. Accept it.

Give her a little freez. Give her a chance to initiate dates and meetings, don't be insolent. Give her some space.


Thats all that i figured out and i hope it will help. If you have any other suggestions, please post, because i'm in similar situation and i'm very curious about this topic

jealousy is a killer, once you are bitten by that bu you can not ever get rid of it.
do not gam eother girls. let her see it doesnt bother you.

_________________
.::nec metu::.

i really apreciate all the replys it has help me a lot i think gaming girls will just bring some more problems. but having frineds is a little bit of a better option as for the facebook thing i guess you can say girls always are diffrent on there and most of the time is a joke so i guess ill stop my jelousy on there anyway i really do apreciate the replys