Hey so i've been seeing this girl for like 2 months or so and i decided to read a few 'keeping her interested techniques' on here.
I decided to see my friends quite alot and only see my girlfriend like 2-3 times a week and make my self quite unavaliable and stuff however i werent that unavailiable i would go see her if she asked and stuff.

And doing this backfired, it seemed like she lost interest and she said that i wasn't giving her enough attention and stuff. and because of this she slept with the first person that gave her attention
Now this is very weird cus she is one of those girls that you'd never think would cheat on you or anything like that shes too nice and 'unknown'.

Help please?!

She would have done the same thing to you if you had acted like an AFC. At least this way you gamed her and kept your dignity. She is a cheater.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Only seeing her 2-3 times a week is a bit below average man.

Did you atleast text her once a day with engaging texts?

lmao, you're not supposed to game on your gf hahahahahaha


dude, come on, are you serious, 90% of gamin is to be used before you have a relationship with someone... jeez.

No need to be a cunt, im asking for help and advice not cunts laughing.

i apologize for lookin like a cunt then, my thoughts were to help not to do the other way around

you know, my output for stuff like this is just be open about it and show her you care, this will make her look at you like you're sweet and then who knows what happens

this is the same thing as when bad boys fuck over women and then apologize, they love them and think they're sweet, it's kind of the same thing

cheers

disagree completely.
remaining a challenge keeps the odds in your favor.

mack is definatly right here, she prob would have cheated either way, shes just covering up her guilt and blaming it on you not giving her attention.

i just went through a very similar situation, as long i was aloof and acted less interested than she was, she was chasing me...i was happy

she started getting insecure and questioning my feelings towards her, and i fell into her trap... i told her she was the prize essentially

i handed the power over to her,

she fucked, and ran off with the badboy that fucked her over before me

im learning now to think of it this way....not only do you save some dignity like mack noted
but if you play the disinterested badboy role, you always have a chance later on to apologize and admit you miss her...want to see her again, etc

its the more attractive option, remember... you are always the prize...make her work to deserve your time and a piece in your life until you are sure there is "love" and things equal out. be the man not the AFC.

I disagree with the statement that you don't have to game your girlfriend. Actually this is completely untrue.

All of the relationship experts who write books and give seminars on maintaining healthy relationships (yes, even marriage) talk about how you have to game your female.

1. leave her little notes telling her you love her
2. be spontaneous and take her out for a picnic
3. do one of her chores for her for no reason
4. send flowers for no reason
5. grab her at the door, carry her to the bedroom, and fuck her silly with no notice
6. date each other in life, roleplay each other in the bedroom

This IS game.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Dude she was a scumbag whore, don't sweat it, what a bullshit excuse, whore can't keep her legs closed

i didn't mean you could just become a wuss as soon as you have your girlfriend, ofc you have to keep things interesting but you can't game her the way you did when two you didn't know each other and didn't have a commitment

we know "game" is a very relative and wide concept and it's probably a little different for all of us but, as an unknown girl has no credit for you, if any girl gets to be your gf then she should be given some credit, i'm taking as a fact that you're not a wuss, keep things interesting, be the prize of happenings, know how women work, etc, etc

so basically, the reason i said 90% of the game doesn't apply to girlfriends meant most of it changes after a girl becomes your girlfriend, it still is game but not the game that's used to the unknown

makes sense?



you know, acting like an AFC makes any girl lose interest.. if you do this to the girl that's your gf she'll lose interest in you and end the relationship or just cheat

i've replied so far thinking that you had this gf right, and you just out of nowhere started looking unavailable, treating her like shit like she had no credit and stuff

Cheers lads for this, really helped.

Sorry bout calling you a cunt skygroove just was raaaa pissed off at the time and your comment just annoyed me haa.

it's all good mate, we're supposed to be here for each other right

cheers

Excuse me, but girls are highly emotional.

When you're acting all cool and unavailable, she is thinking to herself: hmm, I can get dick anywhere i want, so why bother with this jackass?

Ofcourse I remained AFC during my relationship and was far too nice. It backfired. Hard.

She has to feel like the happiest girl alive if you're around her. That way if you're not around she wants to be with you --> JACKPOT!

Guess it's just a balance =)

Not.

Women are never happy. They live in a permanently unfulfilled (SEEKING) state. You will never make/keep a woman happy.

The way to keep a woman (for as long as possible, if such is your goal) is to be something that she wants.

A lot of women want discipline (just like children). They go around their entire lives being catered to, guys buying them flowers, bosses bending over backward to kiss their asses, society praising all of their proud feminist achievements, etc.

They know this is total bullshit, as no human can instinctively be this fucking shallow, no, not even women.

So, along comes "unavailable asshole" man. She takes the bait - hook, line, and sinker, because he is a challenge, THE ONE THING SHE WANTS, the one thing the world rarely presents her with.

Keep trying to make/keep women happy and you will be locked in a white room on suicide watch in no time flat!

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

despite thinking you're right or wrong, if you think you're never gonna be able to make a woman happy then living isn't gonna be very nice for you i figure