Alright so first I have a specific scenario that led me to some more general questions, so if you want you can just skip the first main paragraph if its too long to read

So my gf left today to the bahamas for spring break so I won't see her for a week or so. Last night I wanted to get some good sex in before the drought so I hit her up but she flipped out at me because she was at a bar and she got into an argument with my bestfriends girlfriend. Basically, we spent the night at my bestfriends house and my gf kept talking shit about my bestfriends gf for no reason. So he obviously told her and then she saw her in the bathroom at a bar and basically just said "hey, thanks for the comment about how young I look" sarcastically. So anyways, last night my gf flipped the fuck out at me because she said that me and my friends are all really immature and i should be more dominant and have control over the actions of my friends and their girlfriends. (Background: shes a 23 yo investment banker and i'm a freshmen in college). but my gf was clearly in the wrong and i let her know that. then she said she doesnt want anything to do with college freshmen or something and i tried to call her bluff by telling her she should probably stop texting me then and i never got a reply.

but anyways, my gf left this morning and i probably won't be able to communicate with her for a week or so anyways, unless she has internet at her hotel. But i was just wondering how i should have handled the situation. If i get angry and reactive when she starts an argument does that look weak? My gf is like a really successful business woman so sometimes she can be really dominant and i really hate that. but i know i need to keep frame control so i tried to be dismissive and i guess i'll wait until she contacts me and apologizes. a sort of freeze out. and that generally works for me. but this fight provoked me into reading way of the superior man and the author basically claims that you should always be happy and basically turn the other cheek when a girl gives you a shit test. but i feel like if i responded with affection when she is negative she will be conditioned to react to get attention. How do you guys normally respond when a girl tries to provoke an argument with you over nothing? I feel like maybe its becacuse I haven't been giving her as much attention as I normally do because I'm trying to condition her so i only give her attention when she is submissive and sweet. But then again, women arent exactly dogs so maybe im taking this too far?

I think that a general rule is kind of do what you did. Don't act affected and over react. Act like you are the one in control by calling her bluff. She is the one that will miss out if she doesn't call back, you know the deal. You cannot let her talk shit about your friends though. You must let her know that that is unacceptable. I think she will respect you if you stand up for your friends. Your friends are part of your life. If she can't handle them then do you really want to give them up to for her? Good luck