So...

I've been with this girl for the past weeks. Everytime I see her we look like a couple. We hug, kiss and everything no matter if its at a nightclub or during the day... I keep telling her bullcrap like she's the hottest girl and that I can only imagine myself with her while she basically says the same thing.

The other day, my friend was so confused because he didnt know how to call her (Girlfriend, friend, fuck friend?)... It is clear that we both share feelings but I just don't get when or how to make it official? Because I dont usually bring up the subject, but looks like she is too shy or doesnt want to bring the subject either...

Advices?

Be the man, take initiative, and say, "Hey I like you and wanna go out with you, will you be my girlfriend?" Or any variant of that, just be a man and ask her out, simple

oh god, titles.

titles make me nervous.

with titles, such as "girlfriend" come all sorts of agreed upon (and more importantly, unagreed upon) terms and conditions.

I've been with my girlfriend for about five weeks. Last weekend we were in bed and I've wanted to touch on the subject but didn't know how to do it. She then asked me... "So how about us?".

We talked endlessly about ourselves, our feelings and we shared impressions and interpretations ever since we lay eyes on each other. It was a great conversation and it has deepened our communication and our feelings. Before that we had been calling each other BF/GF but without really discussing it.

My best advice is to put an open question like that and be ready to start answering first, putting a lot of feelings on the table. Don't be afraid to tell her all the shit that is in your head. If you're afraid of it, even better: face it and you'll come to the other side of the conversation having conquered a fear.

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Follow your Dreams -even if it's only for ten minutes a day.

its only been a few weeks? My position would be to wait till atleast a month..but thats me.

How does she talk to you. Is she affectionate, call you cutesy names (honey, babe, etc) ?

If she does, its a good sign. Next time you have an intimate moment, hugging, kissing whatever just calmly tell her, "so when do I get to call you mine?"

Job done, works every time. I think I saw this routine on this site too


Report back on how it goes

it takes 18 months to know a person.

one expert claims that after six seasons (18 months) you will see all of a person's patterns - the good, the bad, the crazy, lol

why rush it?

along with "titles" come "expectations".

you ready for THAT?

I can say from experience that in my current relationship, we never made it official but it has become implied all on its own. I don't even worry about bringing it up now. Basically actions speak louder than words. Just keep moving towards relationship but I don't think that anything ever needs to be explicitly stated.