Just got out of my "real" relationship so I feel like posting this as a review since it can help anyone out there. I learned a lot, the way I see it is that love is something that grows. Relationships that end and have a lot of problems are because the people do stupid things in them and the people do stupid things in them because they have inhibitions/insecurities. I did a lot of research and very surprised to find that it's all about how you are which in turn affects how well the relationship goes, etc.

I also noticed that the longest relationships are those where the people in them have a general positive attitude and are their own best friend. In the movie The Notebook where the love lasted a lifetime, I remember that the guy in it was happy with himself even though he was poor and without an education. The happier you are with yourself, the better the relationship, the longer the love. But being happy with yourself means little fear, few insecurities, etc.

I noticed that when people are in love, as Plato said, "When in love, everyone is a poet." Everyone looks up all sorts of quotes and sayings, I know I did. A lot would just be about never giving up no matter the situation, etc. but they all just didn't feel right.

After the relationship, what really surprised me were these sayings:

-Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away.
-Love wasn't put in your heart to stay. Love isn't love until you give it away.
And my favorite one: The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.

From a distance, lol.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

On a more serious note I would like to add the best relationship advice I ever got. this was imparted to me by my father after I broke up with my fiancée (whom we all loved very deeply).

I of course will embellish a a little to make it sound prettier and to make my dad look more awesome but this is the meat of it.

Son, you need to find you own path and walk down it. Take every single step with passion and integrity. One day you are going to bump into someone on the same path that you feel drawn to and will both decide to walk down the path together.

This sums it up pretty well.

The breakup with my ex was the best breakup ever! We were on different paths and neither one of us would let the other lose their dream for the sake of the other. We wanted to walk together but it wasn't possible...plus back then I was kind of a dick lol!

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

Nyseto, thanks for those thoughts, hopefully will help me with this relationship im getting into with this girl, i really dont want it to end. But one question, do you think if you (the male) have a positive outlook on life and everything that you said ie be your best friend, will the girl feel the same way about herself so that the thing lasts? Or is it more of a you must give your 50% and she must give her 50%? I dont know if that question makes much sense but if it does just wondering.