I can see the PU Gods smiling down right now.

I can see other forum members praising me for manning the F*** up.

I know ppl are tired of hearing me bitch about my LTR probs'.Well,no more bitching after this.

I didnt want to let the cat out the bag as yet,end end up putting my long foot in my mouth(lol).

Anyway,4 days ago,my ex-(yes I said ex-),decided to break up with me,as she always does for little BS.

Like a diplomatic bitch,I always beg her to re-consider.

4 days ago,I didnt.

4 nights ago,she came to my apartment unannounced.

So I caually asked her,"so why didnt you call first,what if I wasnt here and you'd wasted a trip"?

Ex-"I dont see any prob' in that.You expecting other company[hotile tone coming on]"?

Me:"Nah,just saying".

Ex-"[She gets up off bed]Im leaving,and just to let you know,this' my last time coming to your place.In fact this LTR is done,over"!

Me:"[Shaking my head sarcastically]Come on man,again"?

She slams the door and leave.

Typically in a case like that,I would've chased her(literally)and tell her,"you should'nt act like this.Reconsider because I dont want us to break up".

I've done that like 50 time in our 2 years.

But 4 days ago,I seemed to not care nor have the strength to chase and beg anymore,so I layed on my bed in peace.

2 minutes later,she come back inand said something and left again.

I didnt hear her because I had my earpiece in listening to music.

Today makes day 4 without me contacting her by any means.

Only time before(out of 50 times)I'd done this(about a year ago),she came running back to me(literally)on her knees begging to take her back(after about a week of no contact).

I took her back of course after feeling powerful having her beg like I always did.

My expectation this time around after 4 days of no contact?

She will contact me again or show up on my balcony.

Do I want that?No!

Day 1 of no contact wasnt bad.Day 2 was easy also.

Day 3(yesterday)was hell,as she kept popping into my mind.

I do not have an urge to call her.

Just that I wonder and think at sporatic moments.

My #1 fear,as I think with every boyfriend,is that your gf is screwing other guys.

Well,to cope with this #1 fear of mines,I took pre-emptive mental strike and aussumed that she's been banging other guys over the 4 days.

So the unknown fear of her banging other guys is no longer a lurking fear since I've psyched myself out by assuming it already.

4 days of no contact.

For all I know,she's hooked up with 4 guys already(lol).

So there's no need now to take her back nor run bacc to her since Im aussming she's already done the worst.

For other forum members who may reply,please no criticisms on my approach to this.

I've seen guys on here cry,whine and vent over relationships of just 3 months.

It was 2 year and few months(my LTR)so I believe I have a legitimate right to vent.

But Im not taking this hard at all.

No tears,bad feeling,lonliness(another fear I had),etc.

I've been good.

But where I went wrong in the past was trying to find a substitute chicc.

Then when that fails(no new interest),I'd run back to her within 24 hrs.of her BS.

This time,I havent been looking a rebound chicc.

Im just going with the flow.

My birthday's on the 9th.and I plan on having fun as newly single.

I wish I'd done this(accepted break up)months ago(from the 1st 4 month actually).

She will contact me eventually,but I have to be decisive and say no,we'll remain broken up.

I have no reason to have stayed with this chicc.

Her family hates my guts and tries to undermine us,she's lazy(sexually)and doesnt engage in the LTR,she's shown me ungratefulness,takes me for granted,etc.

I've known those thing all along,but too paralyzed to get out.

Too diplomatic to leave.

Well guys,it's official,we're done.

No more reconciliation nor begging on my part.

If yall have been following my other post,I was sarging and gaming like a machine over the past 5 weeks.

So my PU skills have been tested lately,so Im not that rusty(lol).

But I have to applaud the community.

If was the community(seduction)which gave me the tools to actually get a gf.

I'd used game 2 years ago on my now ex-[Vin Dicarlo's escalation-ladder concept was my main key to victory then].

This time,Im gonna enjoy being single for a while.

Im only 28(29 in few days)so Im gonna mingle and stay single for a while.

I'd allowed my ex- to sucked me into an LTR of 2 years,which I never wanted to be in.

2 years ago,I was at the height of PU.

I was laying 3 other girls when I met my ex- 2 years ago.

So I had all reasons to have stayed single.

But I allowed my ex- to turn me into a beta,when all I wanted was just a fuck(lol).

New beginning.

Let the party start.Im single again!!

2 years of misery over!!

Never again will I let a woman suck me into an LTR pre-maturely.

My terms or no terms!!

Make this be a valuable lesson to newbies-explore befor you settle and dont just jump into an LTR with the 1st chicc you meet or lay.

I had all reason to stay single since I was on a high banging 3 other girls when I met my ex.

So I can imagine it being super difficult for guys who arent laying other chicc.

They will jump in an LTR with the 1st chicc they lay.

Anyway guys,no more having to look over my shoulders when I game.

Single!!

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Wow, I could easily just say "Finally!!!!!" and let this reply end at that.

But I'm actually impressed. You handled things very maturely and good. The fact that your mind thinks she's banging other guys already is normal as hell, I wouldn't think anybody would judge you on that, don't worry lol.

You're a free man now. After an LTR like that - I bet this feels like heaven on earth.

I just wanted to say good job!

And if those "i miss her" feelings start arising in a few days . . . well, don't fucking trust them, lol.

Now go out, enjoy life and hopefully from now on - I'll start seeing some posts from you in other sections of this forum!

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Good decision k-loc. I never though of this concept, visualizing your ex with the worst thing she can do, e.g. like she's banging one guy each day to keep her off you head. I'm just done with a short but intense relationship, I think I'll start doing that today ^^.
This is the week end, let's have fun, Have a drink to a new single life that will bring you to the next level !

@Little Panda-Lol,thanks for the encouragement.

Only time I want to be posting in this section again is to warn guys to not let chiccs sucker them into LTR.

It should be mutual or your(guy's)terms.

Yea,the psych out work pertty well.

In the past,I'd say to myself,she cant be cheating,she's a MILF,she's,she seems trustworthy,bla,bla.bla...

The notion that she was an angel made me dread the idea of her fucking around.

So I'd latch on and run back to her.

Now that Im already assuming she's banged guys over the 4 days of no contact,I feel no urge to re-connect.

'Cause I would not want to be with a girl who I know is knowingly banging other guys.

So it is that piece of mental psych-out which actually motivated me to accept the end.

I've now accepted my #1 fear.

Lol,no doubt I feel like Im on cloud 9 Little Panda(lol).

Those fucking feelings of "missing her" was running through my mind like crazy yesterday(lol).

But I surprisingly held out and no contact.Im impressed my damn self(lol).

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@MrLe-Thanks bro'.

Yea,how ironic and crazy it seems,but it did work(thinking your gf is screwing others).

I had her on some sought of a mental- purity pedestal(which most bf's do),so it's hard to break up with girl you think is being faithful.

Assume the worst,as I've done,and it's an easy road to recovery(lol).

So she's banged 4 guys in 4 days to get me off her mind(lol).

Before,I'd have imagine her being home,crying,worrying and thinking about me.

That mentality would drive any bf to reconsile.

But assuming she's doing the worst,not thinking about me...

That mentality works for me.

May not for others.

So how you holding up MrLe(with your case)?

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Good mate, but you aren't there yet.

Only when you kick the bitch out of your house when she comes back you did the job.

I'm waiting for THAT update.

For now you're doing great. Keep up the pace.

Breaking up isn't done in a few days.

@Apcalyptica-Lol,that's true,break up is process.

I cant kicc her out 'cause we dont live together.

So there's no attachments left but an emotional one.

Im holding up quite good.

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Well done K, and good post.

Obviously I know the ins and outs from us speaking a lot, but this should be taken note by most people, not just the newbies to PU.

This has been a big learning block for you, of what a good LTR shouldn't be, and your birthday being next week, it really is a new start for fun, you have 2 reasons to celebrate,.

Your a very good PUA, it's time to shake off the dirt off your shoulder and get back into it, solidly.

If she comes calling, reject her, because she wont expect it and you do need this.

Well done bro!

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@Chel':Yea this' definitely the blueprint of what a decent LTR should "NOT" be like.

We had boredom issues,lack of sex,bad to no communication,no affection shown on her part,etc.

For tho who recall,I wrote a post on how she ditched me on New Years to hang with her girlfriends.

She'd actually broken up with me that night for her friends(lol).

I bitched for her to get bacc with me(lol).

When I think bacc,I say,"wow,she had powers".

This LTR should've been over from about the 4th.month[that's when many issues started],but I dragged it out for 2 years(lol).

Well,back to single ville.

I feel like Im in a rehab for some kind of addiction(lol).

Today's been like like yesterday where Im thinking about her.

Im having to have to fight the thoughts.

I actually slapped myself at one point earlier,telling myself to be strong.

She's been my bad durg for 2 years.

My sobriety is being tested.

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No need to rehash whats been said...

I think all the words have been used up...LOL...

Regardless. Im glad to hear that you are well aware of what you are capable of and that you have options...better ones that will give you what you desire. Sadly, some will live a lifetime hoping for a change...fuck that! If you don't make this change...you think she will...

This is a time for celebration...do your thing...I'll be looking for field reports soon!

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@Cedius-The reason I love your posts is that you never tried convincing me to "break up".

Your approach was,"work it out first",which is what I'd always done.

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Its just what I would do...Honestly...I have done the break up thing, "fuck that...I'l teach her"... and then realized that it was a mistake but then...it was too late to go back...when I would...it was different between us each and every time...now had I just tried without the breakups...things perhaps would have been different.

That's just my personal experience...a good relationship (which most of us hope) will lead to marriage...if you can't work out your relationship in it's preliminary phases...marriage doesn't stand a chance and will be doomed for divorce within the first year or two at best (That's a fact!)...all that macho...leave that bitch type stuff...that's more game than relationship but that is my opinion...only those that find themselves in that position can choose what's best...but leaving and then realizing you are wrong...that's when it's too late and some will find themselves in that position sooner or later.

Now, there are exceptions...if she cheats/lies/steals or whatever goes against your principles...then by all means...unless you want that...let her go, no questions asked.

It doesn't hurt to try...if it doesn't work out...you can walk away with a clear conscious and no doubts because you gave it your honest best.

That's why I didn't feel you should walk away...try first...you are in it together...if she can't see that...then its not a good match for you.

I'm just glad to help out here with what I know.

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I think about what I don't like about her, and convince myself that she doesn't deserve me. I cut all contacts. It's not easy to take her out of my mind. And I focus on flirting with new women, the best way to forget a women is to get a new one
Apocalyptica is right, you need to be strong if she comes back.
So... How was last night ? did you made any girl lucky ?

Thanks for the latest advise MrLe & Cedius.

No lay report yet Mrle(lol).

Anyway guys,major update over the past 2 days.

As it stands,we are still broken up.

She calls me Friday evening:

Ex-"I see that you're having fun enjoying yourself''.

Me:"You expect me to be crying and at home".

Ex-"No,but I didnt expect you to move on so fast".

That sought of exchange went on for a bit.

I told her to come by my apartment last night.

Remind you,when we were together,she would make a fuss about having to come see me.

But last night,no fuss(lol);she came promptly.

I set this all up,so I told my neighbor(an 18 year old HB7.5)to come by in 20 min.

While the ex and I were chatting,the HB18 year old knocks on my door(lol).

I opened and chatted briefly.

My ex had a jealous-facial expression,so I tested it by touching her and saying"sorry for the interruption".

She shrugged her shoulders and said,"Dont touch me"!

Long story short,we parted ways.

She text me all kinds of jealous shit after 12 am.saying I was cheating all long.

Today now,she called me like 5 times in a row(lol).

When we were together,I was the one to call her.

She went on and on about how she's happy for me...

All along,indirectly saying she wants to get back.

I let her know straight up that we could never get back togther.

Her voice started cracking up as if she's gonna cry.

At one point,she says that her co-workers are making fun of her saying that she's begging to get bac with me.

At few points in the almost 2 hour convo',she gets upset saying that I dont give a shit about her feelings(lol)!!

My main point to her was,"remember you dumped me".

Ex-"Yes,but I dont see how you moved on already without even contacting me and letting me know you've moved on".

Totally doesnt make sense since she dumped me(lol).

Doesnt she expect me to move on(lol)!!?

I said to her that,"You would've been satisfied knowing that I cried and begged you to get bacc together".

Long story short,she's subcommunicating that she want to get back.

She's been calling and texting like crazy today.

I feel powerful.

It'd definitely be a step backwards if I were to get back with her.

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I like the way this has gone, maybe I'm a prick lol, but the reason she is basically begging for you know is because she made a rash decision and you hold the power K.

She was assuming you'd do all the chasing like every single time before, but wrong, shit happens and people change and change approach. If you got back with her she would probably be on best behaviour atleast for a while but is it what you want? I sense no it isn;t from what you have said to me and in this thread.

This was a major step for you, I think. You hold the power, you have to do what you feel, but you've had enough experiences with her, and her games. So whatever you decide ...

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