OK, so I've been with my girlfriend for 10 months straight... had ups and downs, but what relationship does not?... Whats kinda boring me now is our monotonous sex life...I mean we have sex 1, 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes more, and we do it in the car... Logistic issues, and this is what I'm kinda getting bored...Id like to add some more spice to sex life... I have some ideas, like renting a room for one day and staying there, I have a lot of trouble with time since I go to school and run my own business... on weekdays I have very little time, I think thats why the car is the best place (We both live with our parents) ... whenever I do see her on a weekday I get a lot of calls from problems at work etc...
I want to unleash the sexual beast of her so to speak.. I know she loves it, and day by day I can say sex gets a little more "dirtier"?... the other day she was giving me a blowjob and I wasmasturbating on her face and she didn't object, like if she wanted me tocum in herface...
I was also thinking of buying her sexy underwear... and make the room thing like a weekend thing.... 14 Feb is monday and I have towork...so I wanna get a room this sunday and just stay there all day...
We have sex often, its just getting boring doing it in the same way everyday ... We had a fight at school,then we worked it out and had sex on a classroom which was pretty freaking hot..
Its things like that I want to try...in a parking lot, or in achanging room...What are your ideas on this?

I wrote a post about the same exact thing days ago.

I dont see you needing to spice it up anymore.

I mean you're giving her facials,sex in the classroom,car...I dont know what more spice than that you want(lol)?

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I'd like it more spontaneous, I mean sex in the car is fun but not the same...
Im gonna rent a motel room every weekend, atleast one day so we can spend the whole day there, and buy her like sexy clothings and that kind of stuff... Whats the name of your topic so I can look it up?

Well I didnt receive any tactical help on my posts so I dont think it would help you.

The motel-get away thing would be cool.

My problem with my gf was that she was boring and I wanted her to be more spontaneous opposed to me having to spice things up all the time.

But about 2 months ago,in order to spice it up,I started fuccing her at random places(vacant piere,back yard,etc.).

That worked until I was satisfied.

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This will get old really fast and will become very expensive for you.

Instead of the same place...I.e. Hotel. Try other places...secluded areas, park, lake, back yard...its not about the money or the things you buy. It's about the time you spend and there have been articles written about how sex in "risky" places really sparks attraction.

Easy on the changing room or highly public areas...it's one thing to spark attraction and spice...it's another to be booked into jail...no one will take pity on you two gettin freaky where you aren't supposed to...take that as a word of caution!

Use the right head when you pick a spot and go from there...when you are out anywhere...look around and try to find new spots. The hotel room is cool, but not for every weekend.

Let us know how it goes...K-loc will post bail if needed!

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Turn her on more (all the time, not just in bed)... remember those attraction switches. Dominate. Bring more emotion into it. Tell her what to do or what you're going to do / want to do... not in a way where you're asking permission but just matter-of-factly.

My gf and I do a lot of the same things over again in bed... there's a lot of stuff that we haven't even tried yet that we talk about and keep 'meaning' to get to. Yet, we turn each other on so much that it's always mindblowing when we have sex... without anything extra added so far.

Is SHE bored, or are you bored? Or both? My instinct is that if a person is bored in bed, then maybe that person is bored out of bed, in the relationship, too. Just earlier today, my girl was having a bad day (working remotely from my apt, I work from home) so I spontaneously picked her up and put her on my back, piggyback, took her away from her work, ran outside and literally ran around in circles in the rain and spun her around til she was laughing hysterically. I did it because I enjoy putting her in a good mood. In the end, I threw her on the bed. Then we each went back to work. Stuff like that keeps a relationship fresh. No other guy has ever done that to her, guaranteed.

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You got me thinking on the last paragraph you wrote. Sometimes I feel bored, other times I really enjoy the relationship.. Sex life is boring, for me...well, I wouldn't classify it as boring, but it lacks something which is what I want to "awaken" ...
You know ... this is something that wanders in my mind a lot, sometimes I feel like I want to pick up a girl and have sex with her, and other times I feel totally devoted to my girl. This doesn't mean I want to break up with her, but I kinda miss my freedom sometimes, the kind of freedom I could just hang out with anyone and do anything. I have stopped doing many things because of her, stopped seeing my friends, and basically let my whole life revolve around her...
She says she wants to marry me, and sometimes I feel like I do too, and sometimes I don't ...there's a huge age difference between us, shes 26 and I'm 20... I mean, girls at28ish start to think that if they don't get married they kind of waste their life and if shes 28 and I'm 22...well, make a point...
I've gotten way off course here now... sometimes I'd wish I could talk this with someone that has been through this issue, because I feel so lost... I don't know what is "missing"... Maybe the fact that I see her everyday at school?... Or other factors... she also stopped doing things, like seeing her friends, and I don't want that to happen, we've been together for 10 months ... I've been trying to indirectly suggest that she should see her friends, and I've been starting to go out at night.. I don't want our lives to revolve around each other 100% ... We've been at the border of breaking up twice, I'm afraid if we have one more trouble we will break up... But when I think about it,I think it would be really painful to see her everyday at school...
I just wish I could talk to someone about this...

Sounds like you are starting to get the "itch". It happens to every guy in a long term relationship. You want something new, yet you don`t want to risk your current relationship to do so. I think you are way too young to even be thinking about marraige and too young to be in a serious relationship with a woman that much older than you.

To spice up you sex life there are two good books.

David Shade' Manual
She Comes First

Hey Adilinar, read my post on what I've learned about relationships here: what-ive-learned-so-far-vt85235.htm

Are you still practicing game / social dynamics? I have a hunch that you aren't since you mentioned not even seeing your friends much anymore. The part about your life starting to revolve around her is a big red flag for a relationship and something I've learned to be very aware of, due to my own past mistakes in that regard. I'm hugely aware now of balancing my time with my girl vs. my business pursuits, my friends, and practicing my game. She ALWAYS wants more of my time. Good. That's the way it should be. Her life should revolve more around you than yours should around her. Your survival activities should come first... business, friends and social alignments

Are you with her because you want to be with HER, or because you want to have a girlfriend? Abundance mentality is key. I tell my girlfriend this, too. She knows I have options and that every day we're together is because each day we make a brand new choice to continue the relationship.

Maybe it would be painful to end the relationship, but think of how painful it would be to get MARRIED to someone who BORES you for the rest of your life! Besides, you're a man. No woman (without a weapon) should be able to inflict any pain upon you that you as a true alpha male cannot stand, physical or emotional.

At the very least, I would start spending more time on my own activities, friends, and passions in life -- whether or not you want to keep the girl -- and keep up your studies and practice on game. You don't have to cheat on your girl, just keep meeting and attracting new women in your life. This way you have options

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One thing I've found particularly fun is getting a small clit vibrator and using that during intercourse... While you're doing her missionary (or really anything), rub that on her clit (or have her do it) while you're penetrating her and she'll go INSANE.

Be cautious if you do it outdoor, go in an area that is not too crowded ( e.g. the beach at night, lac... ). I would try to figure out her fantasies ( you could read "my secret garden" and talk about it with her ). Add some sex toys, it can make the whole things interesting ( e.g. a vibrator, women love that, it's the shit ! ).

I kind of feel that you went the wrong way. Sometimes women seems to want to be the most important things in your life, but it's not the case. If she see that you need her to be happy, she might feel that you are not dedicated to your highest purpose in life. She will feel that you depend on her for your happiness, it will make her feel smoothered by neediness. It might be more healthy for you and your relationship to have an attractive lifestyle, focus on your goals, and let her revolve around this. She will thanks you for that.