Me and my girlfriend we had a pretty good sex life. But nowadays is sucking really bad, it all start when condom broke and we had to rush to the pharmacy to get the next day pill, so we starting not having sex she told me she was afraid she already did an abortion and she couldn't always be taking next day pills because it cause infertility, she promise she was going to start and take the pill , so one week and half pass we slept together everday, despite me not be totally confortable with that and nothing no sex and very few kisses her excuse was she didn't want to provoke me because then i would like to have sex and she wasnt up to it.
Christmas was near and we were going to spend with both our family for a duration of two weeks, so the last day i was hoping things would get right on track, but she was in the mood but like a switch it turn off really quickly, she told she was pressure she wanted but then when she started to think on the problems she would immedialty turn off, I said ok.
On Vacations two weeks pass in that time she started on the pill, we talk via SPAM phone everyday, she even teased me sexually on SPAM, also telling me she misses me very much, that she couldnt handle being far away from me she even cried of the first night I left to my parents home. So i had high hopes when we got back together, but our first meeting didnt go very well, she was crying very sad because her best friend left to london and they wont see her for a very long time, so i had to endure that shit i understood tried to help her hold her but she had her bitch shield,she didnt pay attention to me, crying on the bed, like i wasnt there, and i was thinking wow two weeks saying she misses me and then she does that shit. things got a little better that evening when I kind told her she was being bitch to me, she was more happy we were talking laughing, and when i was thinking no sex because she was in a crappy mood she goes to the toilet with one of her sexy lingerie, so when she came back we start kissing and all, she put my hand on my crotch but seconds later again like a switch off,s" saying she wasn't prepared, i talked to her she told me pressure again i put her too much pressure (which i dont think i do), that she was sad for her friend, and the pill wasnt doing effect. But when she was about to sleep she told me "we look like and old couple since i got that stressful work".

So we dont have sex for like a month ofc two weeks we were far away, but this is starting to bother me, like she isn't attracted to me anymore or do you guys think she is stressful and because of this NO SEX POLICY or any other reason . This is affecting our relantiosthip she wants to cuddle every night but with no sex, I love my girlfriend but im thinking more and more of other girls. Advices anyone

Wow this' interesting and a bit crazy.

What is all her BS excuses about!!?

If she's scared of condoms breaking,then she should at lest suggest you wearing 2[no fun-lol].

But she seems shady as though she's hiding things:feelings(loosing attraction for you).

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Salut!

Go clubbing with your friends. Be honest, tell her that you miss the intimacy you two share before, how you loved your sex life and how now the lack of it frustrates you; that you need a relaxation. I don't suggest hitting on girls since you love her, maybe a little but not seducing.

Salut!

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Mate, wearing two condoms is worse then one, the friction between the condoms make them unsafe faster this way...

http://www.health.arizona.edu/health_to ... ondoms.htm

Carlos!:
How long have you been together with her!? Maybe you shouldn't worry too much and, ur sex life just has a down period becuase of circumstances, but if ur generally in a good relationship this will probably restore, imo

We dated for 6 months on a Long distance relantionship, then we broke up and after 4 months we got back together, and now we are dating for 2 months and half.

None of us here can say for sure if she is genuinely feeling off because of the abortion or if she is loosing interest.

My advice would be to treat the issue carefully, give her space (pregnancy, abortions ect. can really mess with girls emotions)... but its really been to long for this to be a good excuse.

If she comes around, make sure you spice up your sex life! make sure she doesnt lose interest, all women do when men begin to take them for granted. Be an alpha male. she can be attracted to you, watch the way your acting-dont whine about having so sex, and yes, go look for new girls (even if its all innocent now)

Good luck

Sometimes, we think that girls don't like to have sex without feelings, and when you hear she's not prepared you think she's not emotionally prepared, which isn't really true (Unless its her first time) ... girls also get a little whiny on sex, on the first 2 or 3 partners ... If they've had more than 3 partners, most likely they don't care much about feelings... But if you're in between her first 3, or if you're the first they don't take sex lightly.
But, taking all that away: girls like sex as much as we do, or even more, its a proven fact, there could be a lot of reasons, maybe the pill reduces her sexual appetite, or she has a lot of emotional crap going on .. OR, maybe you're just slacking ... My girlfriend once gave me a NO SEX POLICY ... and I was like fine.. and I masturbated for a few days ... but then I turned her on so badly that she was almost begging for me to make love to her (I'm her first she says ... and last.. who knows) ...
My point here is.. turn her on to the point where she wants the sex, do NOT rush it ... Start kissing her, slowly and gente ... and slowly start to use your hands but stay away from her breasts and pusy at the beginning... You do not want to "pressure" her ... Light kisses, slowly building up to bigger kisses... You know they start to get turned on when their breathing gets faster and heavier and they wrap their arms around your neck and pull you closer ....
You know your girl, just turn her on really badly and take your time, rent a hotel room if you don't have your own place...
Trust me, if you turn her on correctly, she will ask you to make love to her.
And if she stops you during the process and says something like shes not prepared or an excuse.. Then you might have some other deep issues.

Guys thank you for the inputs so far.

Well after a talk trying to discover the reasons behind the no sex policy. I kind figure it out that she doesnt trust me, she probably thinks I have other girls. because she says im too flirty with girls I m always on the phone, and i think the indecision of be being trustworth or not, is the main reason. How can I do to make her believe me.
I was thinking of giving of a us a time so she has time to put her ideias in order, with the excuse i dont wanna be with a girl who thinks I cheat, or she trust or not.

Thoughts ppl?

Her being jealous and untrustworthy of you clearly shows she hasn't lost attraction.

The pill can have a lot of effect on her hormones and all the other things don't help.

The no sex thing gets old though.

If you care about her don't pressure her or even talk sex.

Keep gaming others to hold her attention but keep her at a safe distance.

Hopefully you had sex again with her by now. Next time she initiates just say you're too tired and see what happens.

She may become persistant. Then tell her you already took care of yourself and you always have been but only to pictures of her

By doing that this I think it will throw her that you're cheating at first.

She will then realize you were "cheating" with her! Trust renewed.

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Wait wait, were you serious about the 2 condom things k-loc? If you were seriously serious, then oh my. But actually theres no way you could have possibly been serious so nvm.

This is dangerous ground and before you start taking peoples advice I would be careful . I was in a similar situation, I took some wrong advice and a few weeks later we broke up but then again i suck at relationships and what I have learned was.

Jealousy ( is mean but effective)
Only give a compliment when she deserves it so you dont put her too much on a pedastool even though you guys are commited
always be half into her when things are going rough i.e. start looking at other women showing her you have options

And do as my mates advised me yet i didnt have the balls to do " Confront her about Your needs (and how its not going to work if your not satisfied" )

As i said be carefull about the advice im just thinking of this as how i would play it again if i was in the same situation with my ex.

Man, first of all I think that your gf is stressed indeed. Stress for : becoming pregnant while you are making love, and for you to cheat.

What you have to do is first of all to reassure her about your situation. I don't think you should go picking up other girls, or making her more jealous than now. But, does she love you ?
If it is the case, show her that she is a lot for you, that you love her (if it is the case) ... You have to REASSURE her ! Tell her that you don't want to go seeing other girls ...
In a second time, doesn't she take the pill ? You know it is so easier when a girl takes it ! But if she doesn't want to take it, there are others way for the contraception (like the injections ...).
Talk to her about this.

Good luck man, but your situation is not over. It is only for a little while if you does it well.

But remember : if she is jealous, don't try to make her become more jealous ! Things would become worse I think.

Goos luck man !