I've been active in other areas of the PUA forum but not here.

I don't have any problem getting girlfriends. I also have a streak of always breaking up with girls before they ever would with me. I'm often labeled "the one that got away." BUT...this new girl I'm dating is keeping me interested, yet I'm having trouble doing the same with her.

The other day she actually wanted to break it off with me, and was real upset. We agreed to break it off...2 hours later she called me and said she didn't want to break it off. SO...guys...how do I keep this girl interested? She knows I'm a good catch...but I need to keep her having fun. Suggestions?

Don't let an emotional roller coaster, of break ups and make ups, keeping the spark alive in your relationship. I've done that before, and trust me, it won't last.

To keep a relationship interesting, you have to build sexual tension. Each day you wake up, be ready to build sexual tension with your girl.

Theres a small chance she knows about your rep and is playing you.

Find her "currency" (whatever gets her interested) and exploit it to the fullest. If shes playing you, its a game of self control. If not, you can use it to get her interested.

She knows I'm quite capable of getting women. I have a good number of women that are interested in me at most times. But she doesn't know I'm a bit of a PUA.

Currency...meaning?

Any tips on building sexual tension?

I agree Hobbit. And I've read a bunch of your postings in this section on the topics surrounding this. I guess I just need some advice on how to keep it fun and interesting for her.

How do I mix it up sexually so I'm not always running my "best stuff" which is also the same stuff...

I'm not used to being in relationships this long...so I have no idea what I'm doing now.

Sexual tension can be anything man. It can even be in a middle of a text, she's blabbing about something that happened to her and you say. "Sex" It's really that simple. Then just keep going from there. Once you got that down, get creative with it.

(1) You have to keep her in Limbo. The problem with most guys is that they either fall into two categories.
Nice guy - loves his girlfriend unconditionally. She ends up leaving him because her passion dies out and she takes him for granted
Jerk - Rejects his girlfriend too much. She always feels like she's on the verge of getting dumped, her interest level is more based on a need for approval from him than actual love

What you need to do is be in the middle. Make sure your girlfriend knows that you CAN walk away if you ever need to. Don't be UNinterested, be DISinterested. Keep her in the dark, don't spill your heart out. Never fully qualify her, and never fully reject her

(2) Build sexual tension. The reason why passion dies out in a lot of relationships is because as time passes, men become whipping boys for their girlfriends vagina. Before you guys went out, your girlfriend used her sexuality as a way to qualify herself, to pry you off the social market so that you would be hers exclusively. As time passes and she becomes your only source of intimacy, there is no need for her to aggressively use her sexuality to seduce and inspire you. Instead, it becomes a tool for social conditioning. To re-build sexual tension, build your own social value. For example, if you have a torn physique, she'll feel more competitive social anxiety because she'll know that other girls would want to bang you.

(3) Use Jealousy to spark interest. Girls WANT men who are wanted by other girls. There is nothing more satisfying for a girl than having a man to themselves who other girls want. If you want your girlfriends interest level to be high, then you need to make OTHER GIRLS want you. Your girlfriend LOVES the challenge of having to draw your attention away from everyone else.

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@Hauna-Great damn post man;very insightful.

@Hobbit-Sweet & simple;LTR's arent PU.

Im currently learning that the hard way.

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Hakuna hit the nail right on the head.

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not sure if this will help but david deangelo said in one of his interviews with dating guru's that if you ever loose power in a relationship that you should leave it a while and let her get in touch with you, this will make her work harder for you,

while your not communicating in this mini break you have to tell her with out telling her that your getting on with your life, post on facebook what your doing, post photos, she will soon realise that life goes on with out her being there and she will call you, if she doesn't call you - and you have showed your interested in her then she isn't interested and you can move on