So recently, after a broken heart due to problems with her family, I started dating again, this really fabulously HB 8 thats just my type, is all into my same interests, really goofy and sweet, but is a little more of the reserved on relationships, not more on the sexual side but on the caring side, it seems like she doesn't want to invest and "love" because she's afraid ill hurt her, its like shes afraid to show she cares, even when i know she does, and it's a huge turn-off, like i doubt why im going out with her because it just seems like we're still "talking" and theirs no like "Spark", EVEN THOUGH I WANT ONE REALLY BADLY.

Tell me forum, is it me, getting over a bad loss, or is it her not investing as much as I want her to?

and WTF do i do?

Fender43

i came across a girl like this and you need to take it really slow... show her that you can be trusted... she musn't trust you at the moment because she's too scared too invest for fear of getting hurt

its a little hard to tell you what to say but you must have that trustworthy personality...

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I really do have a trustworthy personality in my opinion, and I understand but shes not slow sexually only emotionally which is really weird in my opinion, is it just to keep me around?

hmmm quite possibly... you see when i had a girl like this it took me about 3 "get togethers" with her until she started trusting me... prior to her trusting me she was saying stuff like "i decided a long time ago never to get emotionally involved with a man again" and "i dont fall in love with anyone anymore because there's too much pain" and i seriously dont know what happened but after the 3 get togethers she was seriously in love with me... like she even admitted it herself...
she even got a 4 hour train ride followed by an hour long cab ride to stay with me for one night... and me being me i woke up and told her i had stuff to do and that she had to go (i was an asshole i know lol but i didnt see the big picture back then)...

so im not sure what you can do... maybe try push pulling a bit more... make her jealous... and remember they dont fall in love with you when they're in your company... they fall in love with you while they're by themself thinking about you so make a big enough impression on her and hopefully she'll fall for you

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Well said, be the man you are, take things day by day, trust will build, just be yourself, and show her, you can make her happy.

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We've hung out more than 3 times more around 7 to 8? i think, majority just laying in her bed, we've gone out in public like 2 times.

and the last girl i had we just hit it off the bat and fell in love? perhaps i haven't healed from that because she just took off from my life, and i still think about her too.

may be that im trying to create too much attraction, i like to tease her and be goofy around her, but because of that we are extremely comfortable around each other

I Don't Know what I should do because i do push pull and it seems i do it alot and she digs it and will pursue, but shes not like chasy you know? like she really doesn't care enough? or is afraid to invest?

were not always lovey with each other, if we are its a "i like you" "i heart u" kind of deal, and she doesn't try maybe out of fear, like she doesn't want to invest to much, or i dont want to out of fear of losing my power (aka becoming a bitch) even though its probrably in my head

shes and amazing girl and girlfriend, she can cook and fuck, im just wondering why my head says yes to that but my heart is saying no???

To be honest, I think your putting to much pressure on yourself, her, basically the whole situation. Ease off little bit, and just try to enjoy yourself, and let attraction build a bit more, rather than forcing it, to many people make that mistake ( I have myself!)

No need to play games, just don't text as much, keep it to a few times a day, and try fresh approaches, definitely go out in public more, eases tension, can be a more fun and comfortable SPAM for the both of you.

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Ok first Just wanna say that Jimi Hendrix is Amazing
Second dude you just need to relax take it slower. Let her warm up to you.

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