I posted a while back about my breakup with my ex. Need help again figure what she is doing. So we broke up didnt speak for a mont, she then was clear and said she didnt feel anything more for me and she was sure but then she asked for us to be friends and Hangout. I told her that i didnt want to be friends with her but i would be polite and nice if i saw her, and would still hangout with her friends which they are mine also but there should be a distance between us. So she agreed


A week ago i went out, with couple friends, And she sent to me an sms, asking me if i was at party(normaly she doesnt sent me sms her friend does that) . I was in another so i replied: no i am at another party . She didnt replied back. But me and friend bounced to the party were my ex was at, wasnt expecting to see her since there was 2 thousand ppl there.But There she was at the front door sober(THIS BTW WAS THE FIRST TIME I SAW HER AFTER WE TALK about us) and friends drunk has hell. So i start speaking to them, to know what were they doing out of the arena. Couple of minutes said goodbye and tried to enter the arena but tickets were out , so stayed a bit with my ex and her friends, My ex was kind bitch didnt talk to me. and wanting to leave, so she went to pick her car with a friend and i stayed there chatting with her best friend and i mentioned to her i was going to another town next week to Big Party I dont know what is called in English but its pretty much this university parties with concerts and djs and beer and sex . So then she appeared with her car and pick up her friends and leave without saying nothing.

So friday I was at this party(I dont know if her best friend told her or not) she calls me at 1am i didnt asnwer ofc. she doesnt try again So saturday again she calls me this now at 8pm asking if i want to go for a cofee(strange) . Said i was in another city so when i tried to say goodbye, she ask if everthing was alright with me. I said yes and then we chic chat for about 2 minutes and then i said goodbye.

I find this odd two days in arrow calling me, asking for a cofee, is she afraid, jealous, or just controlling to see if I found another women.is this normal behaviour

Sounds tricky, buddy! Do you still trust her?

Trust her? in what aspect?

You said she said didn't feel anything for you. You said you wasn't interested in a friendship, so you were interested in something else.

You're posting here because you want to know if this is normal, yes it is, women do this alot, but why does it matter unless you're still somewhat interested.

And if you're interested, do you trust she will be what you're looking for?

I'm confused because if you weren't even interested in being friends, why would it concern you how she's behaving?

Deep down im still Afc lol, i still love her and miss her but i try to get the distance i need.Yeah i still game other girls.

So ofcourse im interested, and she is still a part of life because we will hangout and we meet ocasionaly because of our social circle. i just want to be nice and polite, and i dont want to be that friend she comes and introduce me to his boyfriend or be the one she ask advices on her personal life.

She called me again today only called her two hours back, she said she was with her best friend at a cofee near my house and if i would like to join them. I was bit suprised and ask you still there, and she yeah but was going to leave soon but if i want they would stay a bit. I said no ty and she asked me how was the party.Strange in 4 days she calls me 3 times in arrow she never has done this.

So you say ex do this normaly why?

hey carlos i read the story, and this is my guess
she is looking around for possible for new bf's and sometimes she is going on dates, and she thinks this new guy might work out, but when he doesnt she is calling or texting you just to check if you still interested and do you still fancy her and has she still got you on a string if she wants you

so i am thinking when she is at this party or in this coffee shop, she sees a guy she likes but when she cant get him to notice her or buy her a drink or whatever, she suddenly feels bad and unattractive, she needs a quick fix of man-attention, and she wonders to herself "who can i get to come here and make me feel better about myself and show that new guy over there that i have a man who pays me some attention and who i can flirt with? how about good ole carlos? yh i'll text him and see if he comes running' - she is prob just using you to show that guy over there in the coffee shop that she has admirers, and men who will arrive in the coffee shop and say 'hey, nice to see you you lookin nice' and she'll say 'hi carlos come and sit down' and she chat and flirt and smile and swing her hair around and look like the fun party girl, all to get the attention of that other guy in the corner who she wants to show she is desirable to other men....do you see what i mean? then you turn up, buzzing like a bee, and suddenly she is the honey that other guys want

look i dont know her, and maybe she is a real nice girl, but that is my guess, and i think she will keep doing it either until she finds someone who sticks around, or until you stop jumping when she snaps her fingers

this is normal behaviour in those types of girls (not all of us) who just cant bear it when she doesnt have a man to pay her attention

move on hun, you are in a big city, i know you can find someone better

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I dont think she is seeing anyone , but yeah she proabbly wants to see if she got strings on me, she has low self esteem so she proabbly wants me to lift up. But the weird part is I ignore and i just go when her best friend is around so i dont give much importance nowadays, I was spending too much time with her best friend she was sending me text asking cofees and outs, but now she stopped only my ex calls me now


My theroy was she was a bit scared because I meet her in the same circustances I go to other city for a big party and I put my game on her and then we both start dating, because that call was to know where i was, her best friend knew where i was going.



ty ariana