Hey guys, I just made a topic the other week about how my girlfriend wasn't managing her time with me well and always putting me as her last prioritie.Well after having a long talk we got to a pretty good understanding and things were looking a little better, but there's a few things now that are bothering me.

1) A while ago she told me that one of her best friends had feelings for her and expressed them to her, and she told him that she loved me and wasn't interested in him. After talking last week though it seems like things were a little different then that. She told me that she was kind of flirting with him (Which is why he expressed himself to her) and was starting to get "more then basic friendly" emotions around him. In the end she said that it was a little more then he just suddenly had feeling for her and she said no ALTHOUGH she never did anything with him (kissed ect..) or told him that she was getting these feeling around him. In the end the REAL reason why they're not friend anymore is because she didn't know where these feeling would lead her and she wanted to end their friendship because of it. She then told me that she avoided telling me this because of the way that I might react and she thinks these feelings for him were perfectly normal for anyone.

I disagreed and think that you only start to fall for another person if your in a relationship if the relationship that your currently in is weak. I flirt with other girls whenever a get the chance and have become close friends with some. BUT I have never had to end my relationship with them because I was getting uncontrollable feelings for these girls? I always have though in the back of my head that this is fun, but I know my girlfriend is best for me so I don't ever worry about falling in love with another girl.

This has made me lose a little faith in her in our relationship knowing that she's starting to fall for other guys.

2) She also told me that she made the decision to fly to Virgina during thanksgiving(which we normally spend together) OVER A WEEK AGO and just got around to telling me. This got me pretty annoyed that she didn't even think to include me in making this decision as it's one of the few times durring the school year we get to spend together. Needless to say her plans to go didn't include me at all.

3) I think as my girlfriend as a very respectable person, but she joined this very trashy protest about gay marriage . I DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH GAYS but the protest that she got involved in was very obscene and only antagonizing people that are against gays. And she went out and got a shirt that says "FUKH8" on it, which I think is very inappropriate and the website includes a bunch of kids swearing dropping F bombs and a bunch of same sex people kissing for shock value. If your going to protest something at least do it in an adult way, this sort of thing is only going to compound the problem. I am honestly embarrassed that she would get involved in something like this rather then a more respected and organized pro-homosexual program.


All of these things combine are really starting to bug me about her and the status of our relationship. What should I be doing about it..

She probably said this to make you jealousy, she is probably not happy with you two how things are going.

If I were you, I would freeze her out for a couple days. And would said that she should take a time off and try to understand her feelings, if she continues to love you or not and try to understand the feelings for her friends . Because you are sure of your feelings. and she needs to make sure. then only then she should contact you.

I've been dating her for 2 and a half years and I know a freeze out would just make things worse. She's not trying to make me jealous, I'm sure of this.

Oh.. and I broke up with her so it doesn't really matter anymore. Pretty rough stuff.

Sorry to hear that m8. Now try and dont contact let her miss you if you still wanna salvage the relationship