| Ok I REALLY need some help on this. It's a bit of a long story but I'll try my best to keep it short as possible.
So basically I met a girl 1 year ago, one of the first girls I ever used pickup techniques on actually! But it was while I was on holiday in her country and I had to leave after an amazing and passionate 3 days. Never expected to see her again but somehow we kept in touch via SPAM and as time went by ended up talking more and more until she ended up coming to visit me 6 months ago. We had another amazing week together, in fact started to become something more than just sex. Even after she left that time we were talking very often, getting into conversations about what we are, when we can meet again, and so on. And actually I had always planned to go live in her country someday even before I met her so there was a strong possibility of us being together some day.
Anyway, over the last... 3-4 months, we stopped talking so much. Mostly because I've been in a country without easy internet access and a very different timezone and for some reason she didn't seem to make much effort to contact me either. Eventually we did resume contact and things were just as good as before, very flirty, fun, sometimes deep conversations. And while I still have some things I planned to do before moving there I decided to just change all my plans and go there to see what would happen. So I did, I called her up 2 weeks ago and told her what I was thinking about doing, and... well she didnt seem so excited but after talking she was happy and shocked that I was actually going there. Although I told her it wasnt for sure, and just a thought at this time. I didnt want to put too much pressure on things, and give her a little fear of it not happening so she might be more excited.
Then I called her again about a week or so later to tell her I would be there at the end of this month, and she told me she has been seeing someone, in fact according to her she started seeing him AFTER I told her I was thinking of going there........... like wtf..... but she hadnt even kissed him yet, (again wtf?) and she said I could still stay in her place and "see what happens".
I didnt really know what to think of this, why the hell would she start seeing someone after I just told her I'm finally going there... she says it just happened... and what the hell is considered "seeing someone" who you havnt even kissed?? Anyway, guess none of that matters, but I decided "fuck this shit" Im gonna go there before anything does happen with this guy. So I booked a flight leaving in a few days and told her I had some issues renewing my visa and had to leave sooner so Ill be there this weekend! She was like, errr, err, err. She said she met with him last night and they had decided to be together. She actually asked me to cancel my flight unless I really wanted to go there, and has been telling me several times nothing will happen, asking me to promise not to do anything and that she loves this guy.
Now, I know what you are probably thinking, she probably just lost interest in me.... but I really dont think this is the case. To her I really was the muts nuts of men, amazing in bed, smart, funny, cool, all the qualities most girls want. The only is she has told me several times before she doesnt feel any security from me. I never showed her any truly strong feelings, and I kind of tried to make her a bit jealous every now and then to keep the flame burning and whatnot. With this guy, she says he really respects her and so on and shes so happy to be in a relationship where she doesnt even need sex. Which is strange in itself as shes a VERY sexual person.
I've already got my flight, and Im going there, and I convinced her to still let me stay in her place (she asked permission from her new bf...) and I dont care what the fuck it takes Im getting her back. For me this girl really might be the one, So what can I do?
Basically I've told her that I havn't always been completely honest with her, told her that the real reason Im moving there is to be in a relationship with her, and not mostly for my own reasons that I told her before, and there are many other things I havnt always been honest about. I plan to tell her that Ive been trying to make her jealous because I was scared of loosing her and try to change my image in her mind. What do people think of this?
I know I need to get rid of my frame as a free flying playboy who will never settle down and try to offer the security she is looking for. And if I can convince her to "take a step back" from this guy, even just for a week to see how she will feel about me Im sure he will be running home with his tail between his legs. But what is the best way to do this? And what else could I try to use on her to get her back??????????????????????????????????
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