Despite most of the recent posts being about breakups and how to get them back (why would you want to get back with someone who doesn't love you?), this one is a little different. A little info about myself and my relationship - After discovering PUA, I landed my first real relationship a little over 2 years ago. I am now 22, she is 21. We are both in college, I am graduating with my BS in Mech. Eng. this spring, while she is continuing school in Biology and trying to get into a Pharmacy program. Its tough, and despite not doing so well on her first try at the PCAT (Pharmacy's MCAT), she is retaking and going to apply for next fall admision. I am working a 40hr/week co-op that pays well, while she works 2 part-time jobs that pay less than half what I make. We got a puppy (GSD mix) in late spring, and he is now 6 months old. My roommates and I moved into a house 4 houses down from her parent's where she lives, so while it is convenient, we still have our own privacy. Things are great, so whats the problem?

There really isn't a problem, and there really never has been. We have never gotten into a serious argument, and I fear this could somehow come back to bite me in the ass. Is it normal to be so young and have a healthy, happy relationship? My roommate's relationships are completely opposite, they constantly fight with their girlfriends and it confuses me. One finally broke up with his girlfriend, but she was crazy. The other is the bitch of the relationship and does whatever his girlfriend wants. And yet they both see my girlfriend and I happy together, and say stupid stuff like when are we getting married.

So, is it a problem that we never fight? Sure we disagree on things, such as how she spends her money or how I want to keep our dog at my house. But we easily work through the disagreements, and they never blow up into huge fights. I thought getting a puppy together could put strain on the relationship, but its been awesome. Granted, we don't live together, so that step is still to come. But I did move into her parent's house for a couple of days while moving (her parents love me), and we sleep together every night. It has been this way for nearly 1 and a half years, and suprisingly neither has gotten sick of it.

Will it always be this great, or have I just been lucky thus far?

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If you naturally haven't had any kinds of fights, then there is no problem with it. When you disagree with each other, you accept your differences and resolve any kind of minor problems, right?

However... The only way this will become a problem in the future is if you are purposely avoiding arguments, so they won't turn into "fights".

If you do just that - it WILL come back and bite you in the ass in the future. You will burst out yelling at each other and take out all previous avoided arguments at this point.

Hopefully, that's not the case.

I can't be certain, but:

One of my best friends is in a similar situation, though they've been together for 5 years and got engaged a few months ago. The two of them just match in such a way that situations where others would fight, they'd naturally defuse and work out.

However, like you, they still don't live together, and each have their own busy lives. He has his job, she has her job, they have separate social circles, and separate hobbies. I think, that these factors make it so that they never have 'enough of each other' because they're not with each other unhealthy amounts of time. This and their matching personalities make it so that they don't fight at all, and if they keep this lifestyle up and don't change too much (The danger of having such different lives could be that they both develop in a different way.) they'll have a permanent fight-free relationship. (~)

That's my take, so it could be very good news for you, though don't forget to not merge your lives too much. No matter how much you two are in love, if both of you come home from work and spend endless hours with each other, their will plenty of conflict.

Small piece of advice: Make sure you're not AVOIDING fights. I don't think it's bad for a relationship to have a fight once in a while (I think women generally enjoy a little relationship drama in their life once in a while.), though if they don't naturally come up, leave it be.

I've never had a serious LTR in my life, so realise that everything I'm saying is from both third-party perspective, and lacking personal experience.

-ZeroValley

Occasional fights are healthy, there's no denying that. But what's more important is that neither of you should feel "there's something missing" at any point in the LTR. That is the vacancy where the fights come in to fill the emptiness. But you could well be having a lot of romance to fill that empty space, or something along those lines.

Just make sure you're not fighting only because (1) Either or both of you don't give enough of a damn (2) either or both of you agree to each other while not paying attention to your own priorities.

At the end of the day, although we might have noticed spotless relationships only in movies etc, you never know, they could well be existing in real life as well

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I had to write in on this one and say ITS PERFECTLY OK THAT YOU DON'T FIGHT!! Me and my girl aren'T "fighters" either and personally I think its bullshit that everybody thinks that you're supposed to fight and argue in a relationship... "everyone does it"... We both agree that 90% of the population are idiots and they perpetuate this lie to make themselves feel better about their own broken relationships... I'm honestly telling you that it is not only normal but desirable to find a partner that you don't fight with...

BUT !!!

She was my first real relationship (we dated from 17yrs old to 22yrs old).. Since it was my first relationship I figured that compatible girls were a dime a dozen.. So I broke up with her after 4 years because I thought I wanted a change... To make a long story short we spent 6 years apart dating and arguing with other people... We got back together when we were 28 and now we are 34... My point is "you might not realize what you have till its gone "