I'm so stressed lately and so is she, except I'm doing my absolute best to keep it to myself...She's just got stuff happening with one of her hobbies and its stressing her out.

I don't know if I should remain the 'strong one' or allow myself to vent a bit. What do you think? I'm just on the verge of cracking because my ex called me 'needy' the one time I leaned on her, so I'm extremely worried to do it again...

For the sake of my own sanity, I desperately need help

In my opinion, you should remember that you are human, and as strong as you appear on the outside, you can still have some real problems 'brewing up' on the inside. I really think you should discuss with your girlfriend the things that you are feeling, before you do lose control and say something you may not necessarily mean.

Perhaps your ex blew things out of proportion, but just in case she didn't you should be careful how you approach your current girlfriend in case you do come on too strong with your problems. You should always make sure your partner knows you are in control, whilst making sure they can completely trust you because you have opened up to them.

Thanks a lot for that.

I might give her a call soon and have a talk.

Of course you can lean on her. Just dont drag her down with you.

You are two people sharing something and helping each other being better than the sum of you individual selves. Dont be ashamed that you need some help sometimes, everybody does. And it creates a deeper connecction.

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bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

nice replies!

I was also thinking along these lines as i am always reluctant to lean on my gf too

Well, I had a talk to her about it without being a whiny wuss and it went great. She said she really likes it when I tell her how I feel. She even called me to see how I was feeling even though I didn't ask or anything

Thanks for the advice guys!

Communicating emotionally is not the same as being a wuss. And not being able to emote is not the same as being alpha...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn