I hope this is the right place to ask for any kind of advice regarding my relationship with my sister (this is a brother - sister relationship, NOT a sexual one just to avoid any misunderstandings haha)

Anyways..

Yesterday.. My mother introduced me to a man she brought home.. I thought he was great.. And i really liked him, so after dinner i go out for a walk.. And i thought he went home. But, to my surprise i find him and my mother in the bed, when i get back home.. I don't know why i got furious, and regret it deeply, but i got furious, i simply lost it.

I felt like my mother showed me no respect when she took a random man that i've never met before, into my house and had sex with him, the same day as i meet him. After all, he is most likely going to be my stepdad, and that's not a very good start of it all.

So, after i get a fucking blastout on them, the man leaves, and i start arguing with my mother. Take into note that i had lost it at this point, and there was no reason to try to reason with me..

Then my sister breaks in, and tries to come in like a damn buldozer, trying to "defend" my mother.. Obviously, i tell her to back of, she does not.. And keeps on accusing me of being "manipulative" and not wanting my mother the best.. So.. I lose it, my sister and i have never had a good relationship, but.. It was possible to be with her at family parties etc. However, she has no education whatsoever, she's 30 and just moved out, she has no ambitions and hates her job. This is something she is very insecure about, and therefore i flip it against her, i pushed EVERY insecurity that she have to the maximum, and hurt her feelings as deeply as i possible could .. She is refurbishing her apartment, and currently lives with my mother and me, now.. She moves out, and doesent want to talk to me, nor come to the house when i am there..

The way i reacted to the situation was deeply immature, in all ways. Yes, my mother could have avoided that situation, but i should never have been that furious, nor should i have said those things to my sister.

How can i possible fix this situation? I've already talked to my mother and her boyfriend, and they understand it. But my sister, she's deeply hurt, and taking into mind that we've never ever had a good relationship, makes me think that this's the end of any friendship that i had with her..

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

- Koff out

haha dude this is completely different. This is a pick up forum, where we pick up people. Where a girl likes a guy and a guy likes a girl.

you know bro thats a crazy situation ya u did act immaturely but ya know thats your mom and it gets to you, about your sister man all i can tell you is be the bigger person get in contact with her and sincerely apologize take her out ya know spend time with her and build on good times and slowly your relationship will get better. ive always had a good thing with my sister because we are extremely open to each other and respect each others boundaries and decisions and the same type of respect should be towards your mother

Yeah, i am aware of this, i was desperate when i wrote it, and did not think of anywhere else that i could post and get some useable advice.

Go apologize. Several times, and sincerely. Keep it up until she accepts you back in your life.

"Hatred is not ended by hatred, but by love" -Buddha.

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