Perspectives welcome, I'm also typing this to help clear my head, but I really welcome some input.

I've just had to hang up on my girlfriend after she was refusing to speak on the other end of the phone following an argument (waste of credit speaking to silent people).

Basically the problem is: We've finished university this year, and at the moment I live quite far away from her, she's in the city where we went to university. I have not yet found a job since graduating, and as such money is scarce. I am due to travel down there in 2 weeks time for my friends birthday, where I can meet up with a number of friends who I very rarely get to see, and see my girlfriend as well the next day. Now she wants me to travel down this weekend as well as next weekend which effectively doubles the price as it's two train tickets as opposed to one, and I simply cannot afford this and as such I think that it makes sense for me to fit in more than one thing on my trip down. She is livid about this and is saying that "I'm not really coming down to see her", she is demanding that I come down both weekends (but as she knows I cannot afford this I guess she wants me to not bother seeing my friends and celebrating one of their birthdays, all of who I've not seen since June).

Anyway she's now livid with me and I'm wondering am I wrong? Should I tell my friends I can't see them and spend the whole weekend instead?

well dude wtf u doing here man...

she just wanna see you man... are you SURE you didnt do anything else to shake things up on the phone? I think she is just sad that she knows she cant see ya..

dont think she shud be punished for it... just call.. (IMO dont ever let a stupid fight last alot, and never let it pass a night).. just say, listen baby, i wanna see you just as much as you want to.. but i just cant go cause i have no money, see if you can come see me, or if we can split the ticket price ect..

anyway, its so hard to say, because it could be that she was just being a bitch anyway, i dont know your GF; i dont know the story, dont know waht u said.. you should know what to do..

anyway just never let pride control your relationship

Definitely didn't do anything else to shake things up, it's normal for her to flip out over minor or negligible things. I'm beginning to think it's her method of trying to force me to give her what she wants, whether or not I can afford it.

Punished? You mean like freeze outs and whatnot? I agree and I'm not really into such game playing, though I don't really want to speak to her at the moment for the sake of my poor brain!

She did call back after I posted on here last night, still angry of course and decided to bring up the fact that she wanted us to go away on holiday next month. Of course I said I'd prefer to wait until I had a job (you know, so I can actually pay for it..) and I was met with more whining, crying and insults "you're a fucking prick" being one. Anyway, after an hour or so of complaining, emotional blackmail and essentially emotional bullying I gave up and agreed to waste my savings (which I have for a car/house/course) on a holiday. Great. Of course she still wasn't happy because she wanted me to want to blitz my savings away on a holiday..

To be honest I'm not sure if it'll get to the holiday, as it stands now I'm ready to walk, I'm sick to death of the insta-tears that pop up every time she doesn't get her own way, the sinking feeling I get when she calls me be because chances are she'll find something to spend ages arguing or complaining about (I don't really argue, there were next to none in my previous two serious relationships). I'm tired, and my head hurts.

Really? The idea that you would blow your friends off to see a girl that you have been with and will see again for a while as opposed to friends you wont see again very often bemuses me. Balance it out dude.

She sounds like she is being a selfish bitch from what you have written.

She needs to understand that it has nothing to do with you not wanting to see her but it has to do with your money issues. And with the friends thing, I think she is being selfish again by trying to keep you all to herself.

I have a friend who has a long distance boyfriend and she gets annoyed when he comes to her city and spends time with his mates. I told her that he needs to fit all his friends and family in a short period of time. She hates that he gets "fucked up with the boys" and spends the entire night and next day at their house. I can understand where she is coming from but I also know if situations were reversed, she would want to spend her time with the girls as well as with him.

It's all about balance. And your girlfriend sounds like she isn't letting you have your balance. It's all about her.

I agree with Bimm3r where he says maybe you can split the ticket price or she can come see you.

If she continues to act like this, just be honest with her and tell her you don't know how much longer you can put up with her shit.

Good luck!

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