Ok...I had a plan but I didn't write it down and now I’m stuck and forgot it...

The help I need is...has anyone had success with having a sexual conversation with your GF. Nothing lewd, just...what do you like, how...is there something you want to try...etc.

Have you went about it a certain way and have success or did it blow up and go all downhill?

I was thinking of using the approach, I read in my men's health magazine that women .... and I can't remember the rest and I feel that it would have been a good way to just start the conversation and then begin to ask as if...since we are now talking about it...let me know what's on your mind. I just can’t remember what it was… It had to do with women and sex…


What am I trying to get out of this…I want to know her boundaries, where is crossing the line too far but I just cant come out and say that…

Any help would be greatly appreciated or am I just retarded here?

well i suck at relationships but ive got a decent number of flings under my belt.

and with each of these the chick texts or asks me what i would try with them etc out of curiosity.

some will hint at thing awkwardly "erm erm erm"

and some will be amazingly forward. example a text "whats the dirtiest thing you would do to me" etc



as for a girl that is not so obvious i suggest casually mentioning your "ideas" when things begin getting intense etc.

example: when you start kissing her neck etc whisper an idea you would like to try, you can only get a yes or no

IMPORTANT!!!! if she opposes the idea no matter how slightly do not mention it again or you may come across as too forward ( i have made this mistake)

Put on a porno, ask her if she wants to try X,Y,Z, the actors are doing... You can always ask what her fantasies are.

Some things you can ease into, for example you can kiss her neck one day, bite it the next, grab it the next, and if you see her getting turned on by it, next time you can probably choke her out.

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Haha, she might not be down with a porno.

The thing is with these conversations is they have to come up by the by. And you shouldn't be afraid to steer the conversation in that direction if the opportunity presents itself.

Ideally you should get those kinds of conversations started before you're even dating, as a way of qualifying her. Indeed, there are some things that you might like to know in that area of things.

Recently I just had a first date with a girl, and found out very early in the night that she likes girls. Basically I was paying attention to the kinds of comments she made, and she'd already made a couple of offhand positive comments regarding breasts, and after one of them I just said "Are you into girls?".

Thank you for the feed back...Yes, this is something I should have done early....not a year into the relationship...

As for porn....that a NO GO!

But oddly enough, if we are in any park or similar after hours just to hang and talk...It's so on...sex in the dark and she gets loud when she cums too...not to brag...but...I find it crazy that we can't watch a little flick in the privacy of her or my place but out doors, someone could be close by and its ok... we have been very close to being caught on many occasions... but it's still welcomed...Im thinking its the excitement of it all but it still doesnt help with her boundaries.

I dont want crazy hanging off the ceiling fan sex...wait...that would be cool...but really, just something to liven up the bedroom play... thanx for the replies though...I always get good feedback here!