Some background info:

I got with this girl who i like. She's 26 and i'm 23.

We've had 2 dates. The first was to a fair which lasted about 10 hours.

The second was to her place where I kissed her for the first time and had sex with her as well.

Last Thursday she was leaving for a week and I said I'd come see her. I looked for her for about 20 min and then left without texting her to see where she was (yes in restrospect I see that was a wrong move). I only texted her once during her trip as I'm not a big texter.

Today I was joking around with her as usual and I asked her what she was doing Friday. She went into class without answering and then texted me what was I doing? I said "o now u want to know? acting al lcool in front of ur friends. my memory is getting fuzzy haha"

Then I got a text that I thought was a joke because we joked around a lot.

"W/e u wait all week 2 ask & then u do it as im goin to class....who's acting cool? U didnt come c me thurs and barely texted when i was gone & just now asked 2hang out again...I don't think so, 1L"

I texted "Haha i was thinking about roller skating. I might even come pick u up lol : )"

Then the next text hit me that we're not joking anymore

"Ur only 23 so ur already not set w me...i thought u were mr proactive but uh i guess not....so idk what im doin fri & my class just got cancelled : )"

So I called her and said let's hang out. She went into all kinds of stuff. I explained thigns to her and I'm pretty sure I brought her back from the brink (relax I stated a few times that I wasn't going to beg for it but that I was disappointed that so little was enough for her to call it off).

She says she thinks i'm a cool guy but it seems to me her real worry is that I'm too much of a player and that I won't commit to a relationship.

I explained that I was in the market for a girlfriend and that I wouldn't mind spending more time with her because I like hanging out with her. It got her to rethink it a bit but I know now that the real clinch is actions. I got her to unlock the door but my actions have to do the rest. Sadly, that's where I lose my skill as I'm not good with relationships.

Also, we've only been dating for like a week and a half. I know we had sex pretty quick but I didn't think it would move on like this so quickly. I thought hanging out so much would be smothering but apparently that's more or less what she wants? I like her and I can see it going somewhere but it does seem to be moving forward eerily fast. Just some more facts for you all.


Ok so here's my problem.

Two issues here:

1. I'm not 100% sure I got her to go for it. I did, for sure, get her from I'm done to maybe I should try one more time.

2. My skills as a natural pua got me this far but my same skills can't take me farther. Those same skills have come to bite me in the ass because they left her in a state of confusion to where I stand and it made her say "this is too confusing and it's just starting, fuck it." I'm finding it's easy for me to get laid. It's harder to go further than that.

Help me figure out what I should be doing in a relationship and possibly how best to fix this. Much much appreciated.

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Sounds like she doesn't like you playing hard to get. Just ease up a little bit with playing hard to get and not caring. You just slept with her and now you're like "Whatever, I slept with her so it doesn't matter if i cant get her"(from my point of view). You already have her dude. You just need to not be a total asshole.
I don't mean call/text 24/7 but like come on, the game of playing SUPER hard to get was finished when she slept with you.

Hey thanks for the fast reply.

You probably interpreted it like she did which gives a lot of insight as to what's up for me. For the record, it's not true.

I'm just not good at these things and wasn't sure how much is too much. I held back a lot. I thought these things were more time sensitive but I see now that they can happen in quick succession and each case needs to be taken by itself.

I thought we were joking around still but it looks like that time is over in the sense that it's time to tone down how much I do it and be nicer to her.

She texted me something and I texted back a different response than usual. She texted me 2 texts that were very positive especially in comparison to the other texts. I'm pretty sure I set things straight and now I know how to handle it. (I know that might seem sudden but I'm a quick learner lol).

Thanks for the help!

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