HB9
been dating two and a half months. Sleeping together 4 months


Last night I walked into a party to my girlfriend giving her number out to guy. I was drunk. I got pissed. I told her I was pissed. Apparently he was just a "nice" guy inviting her to a party and she was meeting a new friend. Since I trust her after I sobered up later that night I apologized. She was furious. Wouldn't look me in the eyes the rest of the night, wouldn't sleep, told me I made her feel like a tramp. I was drunk and yeah I had 1 or 2 snide comments. What's your guys opinion of the above situation...Did I have a right to be sketched out? I know I didn't bring the issue up to her the right way, but is my anger validated? She also mentioned last night that a few nights ago at a party "I was on her like white on rice"

I also turned into a beta wussy last night. After I realized I was being a knuckle head (only in the sense that bringing up my anger about the situation while I was intoxicated and stupid) I got super approval seeking and love dovey trying to make her happy, and I did the same thing the following morning when we woke up, and she was still pissed. I have been noticing that lately I've been a bit more self-conscious around her and just being more BETA(submissive) in general, I have to stop this, I know I can, but I would love some advice.


She is really pissed and said something along the lines of "jealously an overprotection have been a trend in my relationships" as if to allude she was getting that feeling, but when I pressed her about it she said I haven't been like that, but I was during the night in question.

She's going to her parents in the city for two nights, she wants to go by herself. She has been showing some serious break-up signs. Just from her body language, vibes, I can tell this is really bothering her. My plan at the moment is to let her figure it out, I'm not going back to her on my knees anymore. I'm trying to keep the mentality I can get another girl and i'm trying to make sure I continue to exude my confidence. I told her I was sorry, the ball is in her court.

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Well, sometimes u really can't control what other people do, Its her choice to give her number to whomever she want, whether an innocent new friend or a seducer or just looking for attention, but in a situation where she is into fishy behaviour, sure, its your duty to confront her with the fact. U may have over reacted when u got pissed or overly jealous.

The relatioship is still very young tho, but from the look of things, seems u have been overlyprotective of her and she does'nt like, but note, as men we are protector of love ones, but if a woman becomes disrespectful u let her discover the bad things she does in her life. I'm glad u realise your mistake in the way u handled the situation and u apologised, Well, the ball is no longer in your court buddy.

If she is giving serious signs of break up, I would advise u to prepare yourself for it, It would not be the end of your life, its a lesson u would learn in a relationship and dealing with women.

Have the two of you considered "taking a break" from the relationship for a week or whatever length of time sounds reasonable? Sounds like you need some time to reassess your jealous habits.

If I ever saw my girlfriend giving her number to another guy, I'd laugh it off. I know how common and easy seducing girls with boyfriends can be since I've done it myself, but I'm pretty damn confident that I'm good enough of a boyfriend to not get cheated on. And, if someone else swooped in and somehow stole my girl, more power to them. They've just pulled off a very very difficult task. If a Mexican can survive all the hurdles and life-threatening challenges of crossing the border, I say they deserve being in America and being called Americans.

You're insecure about how much your girlfriend likes you because you don't really like yourself. Work on that.

shes fucking with you man!
that night she WAS giving her number to hook up.. party? (you believe that?)
she then goes on the offensive and bullshits that's she's mad at YOU so you don't realize the truth of the matter.
These break up signs have nothing to do with accusing her of anything you rightfully should be able to, that's an excuse to get out of the relationship and hook up with the guy she gave the number. (in my opinion)

I'm semi-torn on your situation. Currently I'm in an LTR with an incredible girl but I've also had an LTR with some psycho-ho's.

Here's my opinion: Because it's a fairly new relationship. You probably haven't had enough time to build your defenses and create a lot of value for yourself. So unlike Chief's girlfriend yours not be so hard to get.

As the boyfriend you def. maintain the right to ask questions about your girlfriend giving out her number. But, of course in drunken jealousy I think you sounded to direct instead of making a general inquiry.

I say: Let her come back from this 2 day thing in the city and get a feel for her body language. Don't smother her either.

And, if she still seems distant or bothered by you. I say you have a last stand to get your dignity back and stay alpha male. Tell her you want a week break for you both to think about things and completely freeze her out.

If she calls/texts you during the week... your relationship is on the right path again.

If she doesn't call/text during the week...... might as well accept that it's over and move on.