When we try to let someone know that we like them, and do all kinds of things for them to show that we care, the more it seems like they are trying to avoid you.

But is that really the psychology of a person getting loved?

Cause I would imagine that when someone loves me and even though that I don't like this person and is not interested in a relationship, a part of me actually "hopes" something to happen. But at the same time, I refuse the person making it seem as though I do not desire to reciprocate their feelings.

What this dilema? We want them. We like their affection. We hope something to happen. Yet we push them away.

What's the psychology behind this ?

Question 2: Do you believe that there is point that the other person sees that your love is genuine that they give in? If so, then how do I get this person to know that my feelings for her are that strong without pushing her away? She is a legit lesbian by the way making things so much more complicated....

I think a lesbian will give in when she realizes your love. I'm staying strong on this belief as this is only of what keeps me going, but I'm open to thoughts.

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"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

True. The neediness factor.

Thanks Chief !

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Assuming you're still open to an answer, I believe it's just the "we want what we can't have with ease" factor playing its game here. When we have someone who we know loves us a lot, a part of us tends to enter the "satisfaction" mode and we don't feel like making the effort to reciprocate the feelings as we don't find the point in it. After all, we've gotten what we wanted! On the flip-side, you'll realize whenever you found yourself making an effort, it was in order to gain something (in this case, affection) back.

The solution to this is to become a balanced challenge. Giving the other person what they need, but not always. You must make the other person realize the value of the affection you give to them, in order to have it back from them.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

But what if the person you like is not invested in you at all? and possibly expecting you to go all out? (go all out as in doing your best to show them how much you like them.)

I'm trying to get her to invest in me through showing her I genuinely like her to stand out from the other guys who chased her in the past to get her to invest in me - well atleast when chasing a lesbian I think it works that way...

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Well when you're chasing a lesbian it's a different case isn't it? Try seeing it this way.. if there was a gay guy who was intensely in love with you with all his heart and soul, and you were (and are) straight, would you respond to that love? It's just like speaking to a Japanese person in French. The person simply does not understand the language!

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Women are plenty, time is not.

You can't desire what you already have.

You want a cheeseburger until you eat one. Once you eat it and you feel full you will avoid someone trying to sell you a cheeseburger. Love is kind of like that. There is no reason to work at something if you already have it. If your GF is all over you and calling you every hour to say "I love you" there is no incentive for you to work hard anymore.

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

For now, I personally wouldn't. But it has never happened to me so I can't really tell for sure what would happen (but yeah O% chance I would respond for the mindset i have right now).

Though there are cases of lesbians becoming straight or bisexual. http://www.queendom.com/advices/advice.htm?advice=583

I would really appreciate it if someone knows of stories that they can share where a guy falls in love with a lesbian and later made her fall for him so I can learn a thing or two from it.

And there are also stories of a bisexual being able to turn straight girls bisexual (though I really doubt what is written in this paper) http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/08_R ... oman.shtml

Actually, I think they do more or less by the facial expression etc. But you just gave me a really good idea.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"