I am 27, she just turned 29, shes a single mom, she has two kids, lives in an apartment with them (I cant stay over when she has them, per divorce agreement)and weve been together for 7 months. Her family is hardcore christian and she used to be like that too. Since we been together we used to have sex between 3-5 times a day, 4 or 5 days a week.

We havent talked about the future or comittment but her drunk friend told me that she wants a commitment. Last monday she told me that she feels like shes going to hell if she keeps having sex, so shes going to stop... nothing else will change according to her, shell still go out have fun drink etc just no sex. I know for a fact that she loves me and feels like shes inputting more into the relationship than me . Shes fucking withholding sex!

Me im not ready to engage or anything, but maybe in the future, in a year from now for example. I need some help i need to know what to do as this is totally extraordinary and new and dont know how to deal with this.

Appreciate all your Comments
Raphael

Raphael,

The toughest thing in the world to reason with is a "True Believer" in the sense that she feels she may be in hell if she doesn't stop you can't really change that thinking if that is part of her religion. Some people think if they blow themselves up they'll get 72 virgins...go figure! It really comes down to you. She has made a decision that definitely impacts the relationship a lot. I was recently in that situation too and stuck it out, and the relationship ended for other reasons.

She has made this choice and you either have to live with it or you need to leave the relationship. I know that for some people that no sex in a relationship is a complete deal breaker. If you really care for her and can see yourself with her as you mentioned maybe in a year you'll be engaged then stick it out cause what is a year or two in the grand scheme of life. If you don't truly care for her as deep as you think and it's a deal breaker for you then leave now...don't drag it out.

I don't expect you to post your decision on this forum cause it's none of our business but I wish you the best of luck.

Jon

she has a kid out of wedlock, and has been sleeping around... she's already on her way to hell... changing now is a cop out.

either ramp her up into a sexual frenzy, then hold out on her, or dump her sorry arse and find someone that isn't delusional...

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