I've been dating my girlfriend for a year now and I was pretty controlling for a while but really toned it down in the last 4 months or so. Yesterday, she told me that she dances with other guys at parties and I got silently mad. I didn't want to show her o was mad before I got some input on this. I calmly asked if she grinded on guys or just danced next to them and she said she doesn't grind on them. Personally, I think that's a lie but I have no way of proving it. Should I believe her when she says she doesn't grind on guys or should I go with my gut and be angry? Thanks in advance.

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Why are you jealous about her dancing with guys? would you be jealous if she danced with her female friends?

i think as long as there's no hooking up, it's just a way to stroke her ego a bit... kind of sounds like your the jealous type...

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Moderately jealous. But I don't like the idea of my girlfriend dry humping another guy

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I feel you man. In my opinion, it would be OK if she was just dancing, but grinding is a whole different story. My suggestion is you go out and dance with someone and subtly let her know you did it. Two things can happen: 1. She stops dancing with guys and tells you to stop dancing with girls. 2. She goes over the top and does it even more. Hope for the first one.
Good luck.

perhaps since it has been mellow the last 4 months.. she wanted some passion and the good-kind of jelousy back in the relationship..

Perhaps she wanted some spark.. Some women like to be told what to do, and what not to do.. IT really depends on the girl. .And since you've been with her for a year, you should have known what she meant... think about it..

You've been dating this girl for a year. Has she given you any reason not to trust her in that time? If not, you're being ridiculous and more importantly, your relationship is lacking one of the most important pillars (trust).

You need to let go of this jealousy shit. Worrying and getting mad accomplishes nothing and actually serves to push girls away more often than it keeps them around.

Your boy,
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Around mid-May, she told me that she had liked another guy for about a month in the winter. This hurt my trust in her, both because she liked another guy AND because she hid it for so long

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If she did nothing about it, and STILL stayed with you, then i'd say it's a pretty good reason TO trust her. we can't help that little spark of attraction... remember David Deangelo's mantra? "attraction is not a choice".

so another dude flipped her attraction switch. not her fault. BUT the way she handled it (stayed faithful) speaks volume about her!

she probably kept it hidden due to your Jealousy issues.

Look at it this way, so many PUA's see dance floor game as pretty low success rate, so really, you have more to worry about from the smooth guy at her work who chats to her every day

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ask her that youll either do the same or she stops dancing

Grappler,

My GF does care if I dance with girls because she is my GF but eventually she knows that I love her. But I would not dance with other girls because I knows she cares. She knew you cared...
To be silently mad is a bad thing. It means you are holding down emotions. Since you are in a 1 year relationship you should be able to talk about everything.

To solve the problem I suggest you leave the situation behind and focus on getting the spark back. Looks like it's lacking there.

Riqueza.

A relationship needs some jealousy.