hey guys.

so things seemed like they were somewhat detereorating with my girl. i gave it
some time to see if it would get better but it wasnt, so i told her we cant do this
anymore. it ended somewhat badly at the time (she was very upset, and she likes
me a tonnn.) but we made up and we still talk every day, she texts and calls me
a bit more than i do.

really, the reason i ended it was so things didnt get extremely bad and i am
hoping she will come back to me, and she knows that she has to be the one to
come back, (weird i know, i told her something about how i had to let her go to
see if she cared enough to come back, probably a mistake but w/e.) the other day
we were talking about it and shes like "yeah i know, you want me to chase you."
i said something else and she said "maybe we should but idk right now." its funny
because she's also been sending me pictures of her in REALLY hot underwear to
see what i thought about them etc.

so it seems to me that the only two reasons she hasnt come back is one- she's
scared of being emotionally hurt again. and two- her pride is in the damn way...


any ideas???

p.s. yeah i want her back, but i know that if it doesn't happen i'll get over it so
save the moving on speaches for the most part please. and also, we were
never officially committed to each other. before things fell apart she wanted
a relationship but i was hesistant on it. she is basically in love with me and
has told me a lot that she's never liked me as much as any other guy because
im a challenge and other guys just drool all over her. the whole reason things
fell apart is i got extremely mad at her one night over nothing (temper) and
she cried all night, i didnt even care to talk to her til the next day so she
acted somewhat distant from then

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Oh you kids, so complicated. I know where you're coming from. The only time I've got an ex to want me back is after I let a large period of time pass, during which I discovered this community. When we casually hung out again, I was freaking radiant compared to how shitty I used to be when we were dating and she said she wanted me back outright. That's how you have your cake and eat it.

Now if you just recently broke up with her, you should put on your man pants and reach out to her. It's not very manly to force a girl to pursue you. If you meant it when you said she has to come to you, then you have to be quiet and just wait til/if she comes around. You made it her choice, don't try to bully her into making it. But anyway, you broke it off for a reason. I find that first instincts are usually right, even if it's buried in emotion. Something's not right with your relationship, time apart is probably the right answer for both of you.

i think your probably right. we talked on the phone saturday night at like one in
the morning and she was telling me she wished the last two weeks never happened
and how she wishes things could go back to normal.

next day i texted her at work and she said she wanted to come say hi. i told her
i don't get off til six and she had something going on at six so that was a no go.

so i think maybe in a few days i'm just gonna tell her to come over, and i'll fix
things myself. i was thinking don't even talk much about the whole situation and
just escalate with her to remind her how she felt about me, but i'm also open to
suggestions...

edit: it should be noted that i do not seem very emotionally reactive to a lot of
people at all, so when she called, she kept saying that its sad because i seem
over her, idk if this was good or not. i also reassured her that "i still miss her."
idk if this was a good thing to do either lol, as you can see i'm questioning some
of my actions lately.

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Back off for a while. If she said she wants space, the more you try and call her and stuff, the more she will lose interest. The more you guys don't talk, the crazier it will drive her. If she has feelings for you, she WILL come back. And if she doesn't, you'll find someone better so don't worry about it. Don't be too attached to her or you'll fcuk this up yourself.

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that does make sense i know she needs her space now.

she got her phone taken away (yeah we're only in high school) so we havent
talked for a couple days. the things is, I KNOW she has strong feelings for me.
i think the reasons she isnt coming back are pride, fear of getting hurt, fear of
getting too attatched to me for when i leave to college (she verbalized this one)
but i mean we got the whole summer of fun in front of us and i dont wanna throw
that away.,

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From how i see this, your situation does not seem too bad well compared to my at least it is not.

It looks like the relationship will keep continuing from the sound of it. If it is pride, fear of getting hurt & what not that are getting in the way, then all you have to do is let her know that you won't hurt her, and that if it ever ends you rather be the one getting hurt. Reassure her is basically what I am saying.

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im in a similar situion now

all good advice

on the verge of breaking up from me being a dik and insecure about things... and us spening too much time together and fighting

she is willing to give it another chance but i think needs some time

i think i have to re game her?