Been dating this girl since january so we're going on about 3 1/2 months. Early I know but my lease is up at the end of the month and she wants me to move in with her.... Things are going good but I'm 29 and she's 20. She's 21 next week. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little nervous to see what's going to happen after she turns 21. Although she hasn't given me reason to think she'll cheat. I kinda have to make a decision quickly or start looking for another place to live. My gut says don't do it, it's too soon, what if it doesn't work... Though it would be the easiest thing and I like her a lot even love her sometimes. I already have keys to her place and stay there almost nightly. In her eye's it's the obvious move and I feel if I don't I risk damaging the relationship. I also don't want to make a decision based on fear of cheating or causing distance or creating trust issues. Let me know what you think. Thanks

Dont do it...I moved in with my gf of a year and a half about 3 months ago because I was done school and she lives 2 hrs away and in hindsight I would have waited. I love her to death! but here is why I dont think she is ready to move in.

1. Your gf is only 20 (same age as mine) and you are older (So am I). I have really realized that my gf is alot less mature and has alot less life experience than me since we have moved in togeather. Things that are simple and routine to me are a big task for her, she also gets frustrated over bills and simple task...I now realize that she needed more time to mature and grow on her own before we moved in with each other like I did when I was 20. Its ok...Im helping her along and teaching her all she needs to know but at times I feel like a parent. Again I love her to death! but I have realized that it will take time to mature and learn to take care of her self.

2. 3 months is fast! I remeber at 3 months I thought I couldnt get any closer to my gf! she was the first women I said "I love you" to...well a year later I can tell you that If I would have moved in with her at 3 months we would have been broken up forsure! relationship take time to build...even strong ones.

3. this is more of a question? whats the rush? why not take your time...better safe than sorry.

P.s my thought process before moving in was "well she stays over at my place almost every night any way and we spend most of our time togeather...might as well move in its the same thing.

Its not the same because once you move in there is no geting away...if you fight there is no were to go, you can stroll in drunk at 3 in the morning any more lol, your boys nights at your place now include her ect ect ect...see what Im saying?

IMO wait a year and then see how you feel.

I was thinking along those same lines. Although she is very grown up for her age(been on her own since 16) I can see she has a lot of growing up still. I was also thinking about moving on and continue with pua stuff. I feel theres a lot to learn not just about picking up girls but life in general. since I started pua stuff I've had 2 beautifulu girlfriends and several others that I never hooked up with but probably could have if I was single. I want to keep one upping myself and see how far I can take it till I find the ONE. For now the girl I'm seeing has a lot of great qualities. But I think your right I should wait to move in. Espesially if I plan on going back to pua stuff.

Reading from your own words, don't do it.

DO NOT DO IT

I am currently going through the mess of moving in/ moving out/ breaking up which ruined a perfectly fine relationship. We stayed at each other places every night but living together is whole new deal. Please learn from my disaster.

I'm even going to go as far as suggesting not living with someone unless you are at least engaged and 'know' that you you love this girl for the right reasons and have a future with her. The petty things that magically pop up after you move in with each other will try their damnest to tear the relationship apart if it isn't strong enough.