Okay so she broke up with me, Ive seen a few other girls- a few were better looking, some funnier or nicer etc.... I want my ex back.

Ill bring you up to speed, we went out for 15 months, last five months were not good- I fell out with her friends etc. We started bickering and I took her for granted and she always put me second. It pissed me off.

I AFC'd out for a while, I asked her back out, promised to change etc. etc. and it pains me to know I did this. Anyway we went out for a walk and ended up lying on the yard of her primary skwl, just near some fields, we went for long walks... both said 'I miss you' etc.

Anyway, SHE KISSES ME when we are led ont floor... Then gets all upset so i tell her 'Its okay, dont feel bad- you had an urge and allowed yourself to express it- don't tell me your sorry for it.'

Then we went to lie down on the grass and we kissed and I told her 'I'm glad I never got with Carly' (HB7 she thought I was getting with) she asks why and i just said 'Because I love you.' She hugs me and whispers in my ear 'I still love you'

Anyway then about ten minutes later we have kissed a couple more times, and we were both pretty horny. Anyway we were out about 5 hours and we DID have sex in the woods =]

Afterwards she totally breaks down and basically says she was scared because all shes ever seen is her mum be treated like shit so she always put her friends first, but secretly I was always first even though she never admitted it.

So since then we have been ont phone every night for hours. She went to Italy and texted me EVERY night (long essays) and I never texted her back. I didn't have any credit.

We have met up a few times and every time we have basically been bf/gf. I have told her I want her back and want to try again and she just says 'I'm sorry' EVERY TIME.

Apparently she loves me and wants me but 'something' isn't right. WHAT HAPPENNED TO LETS BE IN LOVE AND NOT GIVE A SHIT?

We have had sex three times since we broke up last month, and we have fooled round orally a few times also. Afterwards one time at her house after we had sex we were under the covers and she was led on my chest and was just like 'I am so happy right now.'

UNFORTUNATELY... she says every time she kisses me it is like being punched in the face.

I want her as more than just a fuck buddy and it has really gotten to me and today I had a real go at her.

It bubbled down to: ' I am fed up with you treating me like this, we both know we can never just be friends and I don't want you fucking me around- I do not just want to be your fuckbuddy.'

I then told her I didn't want to know her until she said the words 'I want to be with you.'







WAS I TOO HARSH AND WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE? PLEASE HELP GUYS I CANT THINK STRAIGHT.

Also if it helps she was on webcam when I told her the last bit and she looked like tonight is gonna be a sleepless weepy night..... I HATE MAKING HER UPSET

What I want is a girl who will love me for being totally afc and who will put me first and even be a bit clingy. Sounds weird huh?

It's funny that she's totally playing you. She is COMPLETELY in control. You're the one chasing her, you're the one telling her you want to be together again and you're the one letting her be in control of the "relationship".

For one freaking moment in your life, block your feelings for her. If you continue sucking up to her and kissing her ass like this - you WILL lose her because she will continue to sexually use you until she finds somebody else.

However, by risking to lose her (i.e IGNORE HER ASS) the chances that SHE will come crawling back and that YOU will be in control drastically increase.

SO... Break contact from her for a while. Tell her exactly why you can't be around you and if she doesn't want you - you're not interested (or whatever). Then just ignore any sort of contact from her, until she goes crazy.

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aha yeah it is pretty lazy, but i like lazy =]

Also, yeah logically I know exactly what to do and your advice is totally spot on. Its just hard to do, but I am totally going to try my fookin best.

So, have I done the right thing in saying ' I don't want to know you until you say the words 'I want to be with you'. ?

Panda is correct your not in control at all, your so in love with her and want her back so badly you will do about anything... Also next time she dose ask you to hangout say your busy and leave it at that she will end up callin you and askin what your up to, pretty much checkin up on you.

I got a related problem. My GF broke up whit me abut a month ago. She has fallen in love whit her best friend and I want to know if it is realistic to think I can get her back.

I haw analysed the relationship and know why it broke of. I pushed to match and showed to little love. She slowly stooped believing that I loved her. She then started to get filings for her best friend (a guy). I haw read a lot about getting back whit your ex. But I are worried. I don't know if I can get her back.

Some advise on what to do and if you think I am completely lost. We haw bean together or a little more then two years and I started to think that she was the one. I was even thinking or pupping the question.

Sorry for my bad spelling

No chance, wouldn't even try. She is in love with someone else and went with you, you shouldn't even want her man.

How old are you? I'd assume your in the 20-25 region, maybe wrong though. I know it's hard, I was knocked back after my 2 year relationship a year back. Plenty more girls out there, you need to get back into gaming man, other chicks. Look at any mistakes you made, and develop from them.

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My girlfriend broke up with me too. I told her that its ok and I wish her all the best in life wherever she may go. She really would like to be friends, so I said that I want that too.

I broke contact for a while, having this time to work on myself, create different oppurtunities and such.

I miss her too, you know. We were a great team together and would like it if we could try it again. If she doesn't, well, that's ok I like to see her happy, it makes me happy too. It can sting a little but I know what good stuff she is missing out on.

She treated me really cold after she broke up, but it's funny how he is still wearing our friendship ring (we pretended a marriage). Last time I've spoken to her, she called me the everlasting nr. 1 guy. She would like to keep all the memories we shared and the presents and things I made for her too. Well, not all the presents, but a couple of them that means a lot to her. She keeps all the handcrafted things though.

It's a pitty. I don't know what is going to happen with her and me if we ever get together again or not (I think she will..but hey) there's always a part that wonders what would have happened if we would still be together and all the kinds of crazy stuff we could have done together.

I hope she's going to be happy and i'll just let her go, but a part of me hopes she'll text me. Some stuff she borrowed from me will be handled through a small meeting somewhere. I told her we could go for a one hour drink and leave it with that, but she responded with 'I would enjoy a bit longer too, maybe we can go have lunch'.

It's weird how her signals tell me she wants me. I wonder if she misses me right now. We're good guys, right? A load of fun. Shame I got needy in the progress and insecure; the reason why she broke up with me even though she told me that that isn't the case.

We can't control life, it wouldn't be fun either. Just let it be and just go with it.. The harder you want to keep things the way they are, the easier they will disappear