Let me be more clear: I've been dating someone for a couple of months now. We went through the phase of doing nothing but thinking about each other/seeing each other, and now things have cooled a little. The sex life is still incredible, and everything else is good too. I understand the theory of attraction (the whole you want what you don't have, but when you get it the desire kind of...simmers), but how does this work in relation to a relationship? I've been very clear about being crazy about her and while she isn't blatantly taking this whole thing for granted, I want to keep her guessing. Is this possible when in a relationship?

-J

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The last girl I dated was all over me because I didn't give her everything she wanted. Eventually I lost interest in her, but you can still push and pull in a relationship. I didn't do it while thinking "I need to up the attraction here" though, I just did it because I wanted what I wanted, and the push/pull came naturally.

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Awesome that helps out a lot. Thanks.

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Oh.

Do something fun that neither of you have done before - skydive or dance class.

At this point, she is attracted. So you have to work a lot more on building connection between you two. Keep the relation from going stale by doing some nice things with her that are unexpected and keep things fresh between you two. Then again this might be one of these " one girl, one answer" kind of thread. Maybe your girl is more into excitement, maybe she's more into confort. But I think my advise stands for all types. Don't let things go stale but create a confortable environement for you two to develop a relationship. Don't go wussy on her, keep your 'Man' status and keep things interesting and spicy!

Good luck!

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