the same girl that i used to make the threads about a couple of months ago is now HEAD OVER HEELS in love with me..we are exclusive now which i like but she is suffocating me a little bit..she wants to see me a little more that i would like and when i say i cant she gets upset..she wants to talk to me all day via bbm or on the phone and when i dont answer she gets upset too..she was just with me alll dayy today and when she finally left she got home 30 min later and called just to talk..what am i supposed to do about this? she is suffocating me a little bit, i love her but the challenge of her has completely dissipated and the intrigue has kind of dissapeared as well..what should i do?

I'd say ease her off gradually, start to suggest, in conversation, subtlely, that there's something to be said for having a chance to miss someone, eg. if every day was a sunny day, what's a sunny day?

Talk to her about this. Tell her how you feel.

The worst thing you can do is to start freezing her out to prove a point. That will just result in her getting strongly frustrated and wanting you even more.

You gotta let her know what the situation is like.

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Yes, Little Panda has it right.

You need to talk to her about it. Make sure she understands that you are telling her because you want the relation you guys are developping to grow and that you care about her.

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dude i think your dating my ex and im just posting to let you know your screwed


nah but seriously this chick does sound alot like my ex and i tried talking to her about it

trust me it WONT WORK !!!! she will twist it round on how you dont care enough about her and that you treat her like shit and so on

your girl is insecure and clingy shes learned this over a lifetime your talk wont work maybe it will keep her at bay for a little bit but trust me not long

although you love this girl the longer you stay with her the harder its going to get for both of you

somethings you might have noticed already

shes upset alot

always has different problems going on in her life that she feels talking to you makes go away

she gets sick alot

oh and my fav when shes with you and your friends you get the idea she wants to leave and just be with you because she wants to keep you all to herself

oh and all her ex are jerks well my friend your the next jerk


you will have the following to look forward to

you will have long sometimes violent on her part fights as she cant get what she wants anyother way

her being paranoid insecure and totaly anoying and needy
oh and because of her insecurities look forward to her fucking lots of different guys behind your back she needs to feel validated and these guys shes fucking behind your back make her feel this

believe me or not if you stay with this chick sometime in the future you will be sitting and thinking huh Mrmonk was right

and when this does happen feel free to pm me and we can have great convo about our crazy ex's look forward to hearing from you in the near future

Mrmonk

Well I think there are different varieties for this kind of girl - I don't think clingyness is mutually exclusive with sleeping around behind your back. She can be clingy and loyal too.

i was meaning her insecurities would make her do that

try to indirectly enlighten her on the push pull aspect of relationships. once she understands that she might ease up.

basically you need to qualify her. get into a conversation about relationships and find a way to communicate to her that you can't stand when girls smother you in a relationsihp. make sure you don't put her on the spot. try to be indirect about it or you might hurt her feelings.

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Totally Agree.

IMO trappinu is in a relationship he dosent even really want to be in i read back on the original post he put up about the girl i dont think he wanted a commited relationship at all i think in someway yeah he liked the girl but enough to be in a relationship

she basically got a jelously plot line going on in trappinu's head he was competing against an older successful guy a guy who had his own place big fancy lawyers job

i think trappinu felt threatend by this guy

and didnt want the girl to move on to something that trappinu felt could be a better guy than him so he got real jelous and worried and jumped into a relationship with the girl to keep her as his own

and now he's eliminated the compettion he's realising he dosent even want the relationship

well atleast this is my opinion

trappinu if i am wrong let me know i would to find out more about your situation feel free to pm me