Not that any of us are particularly promiscuous...
So I recently discovered why, after being rather successful the last few years as a PUA, I have problems with monogamy. It may be something others have dealt with and could possibly alleviate future problems for many.
Ready? Here goes...
I have relished in the fact that I adopted the game so effortlessly and have used it to surround myself with multiple women at any time, in any place, all over the world. I have found relief in the fact that I could go anywhere, find female companionship, and never have to let them go as I explained to all of them that there were other women. I have enjoyed living every day knowing that if I died, I would die happy. My life was well-balanced, I enjoyed doing whatever I wanted, and I always had a woman (if I so chose) to accompany me.
Well, gentlemen, one thing I've noticed that is hurting me now is that when having all those women involved, and being noticably successful at fulfilling their needs, it tends to stroke the ego like no other. They (the women) themselves are only giving the positive attention levels any other woman is capable of, but the PUA is receiving multiple waves of attention, validity, and positive reinforcement. After a while (especially after a few years!) a guy tends to get used to giving/receiving such amounts of energy and accepts these energy levels as normal.
So what happens when a PUA decides to go "cold turkey" and accept only one woman in his life? Do fairy's and unicorns and clouds and castles and bright rays of sunshine bounce off wonderful floating notes of music? F U C K no. What happened to this unfortunate soul almost lost the first woman he actually fell for. I somehow reverted to AFC, and repeated a number of mistakes put in print on this very forum. Literally. I had all that excess energy and focused it on her, by overthinking things, doing every little thing for her, etc., and basically smothering her. In return, I didn't receive 3 or 4 or 10 female's worth of adoration and admiration, and it drove me crazy.
For those that make the decision to embark on the highly rewarding (if differently so) road of monogamy, remember these words and don't make the same mistakes I did... a completely AFC thing to do.
CHAT