My girlfriend and I are 20 years old, and full time college students. We have been dating for 6 months now. Sex has always been a rarity between us - because of how we both live at home with our parents and such.

She has always refused to do anything sexual in a car and refuses to even do anything in a Hotel (when the opportunity arose for us to have a room).

She told me straight up that she has a low sex drive and absolutely no drive to have sex at all. She had been single for 2 years before she met me and she had no sex with anyone during that time - but instead masturbated a lot.

She used to have sex as often as she could with her EX's however. And her excuses for this are that she is more mature now than to just jump on dick whenever she gets the chance and that she doesn't have much of a sex drive because of her being single for so long. And that while she had sex often with her EX's - it was because she was young and horny because sex was all new to her.

She masturbates every morning and every night.. (most times) and she says she does this for a release not because she is horny at all. (but I feel as if this could be lowering her need for male affection with me)

SEX ASIDE - everything in our relationship is OK. She loves me and has told me straight out that she is afraid of losing me and that she doesn't want this issue to come between us. She loves to hold me and just lay down with me and watch TV. We have a lot of amazing and fun times together.

But I'm not getting the sex that I need.... and I've talked to her about it. I just feel unwanted by my own GF... and I've told her this.... and when I do.. she feels like she is being pressured... and she says that she feels like she "has" to do this. I don't want her to feel that way.. I want her to WANT to have sex with me... and be DYING to rip off my clothes and fuck me.

How can I get her sex drive up?? Because other than breaking up (which isn't something I really want to do over SEX)... I am lost as to what to do.

Any advice??

_________________
You must first learn how to know before you can know how to learn.

yeah man in in almost the same scenario as you. i think my gf got bored of me and i got bored of her and so were not contacting each other anymore. im going to be sarging this week to get a new girl. no sex=no relotionship and my gf cant because of religious commitments so bye for her!

Well she is extremely busy and stressed with work/class and such... maybe just too busy to think about that kind of thing and too stressed/busy/or TIRED to have a sex drive?

_________________
You must first learn how to know before you can know how to learn.

Sounds like you really wanna keep this girl, BUT lets be real bro sex is an imperitive part of a relationship. If she dosen't take the time to overcome her issues w/ sex then that riff between you will turn into a trench. Once that happens it will be hard to close it.
She might be afraid that once she starts having sex w/ you as often as u want, the relationship you two have will disapate and jus be sex instead of being something real. Have you asked her the type of relationship her and her ex had? was it all sex or was there love too? once you know these things i believe you'll have a better grasp of wats on her mind[/quote]

_________________
We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.

Sex is important in a relationship and as you stated you wish she's be like you and be dying to get your clothes off and wanting to have sex so I also agree something must be going on in her head.

Your objective: Find out what it is, then decide on the relationship for the right reasons.

It could be her ex, it could be something not as deep. Find out, because this isn't fair on you. I'm 21 and at this age if your with someone and not having sex, something is very wrong.

mm i think she doesn't want to commit her emotions to the fullest extend because she wants to see what's changed(long term). she wants to know for sure you don't put up your previous negative behaviours, past is holding her back probably because if you haven't changed at all it's harder for her to withfraw herself from the situation. Stress from work also is a factor.... but i think it's in her head .. main reason is fear or negative future expectations.
she's more mature .. ok that's cool .. however we guys like mature girls - who jump on dick when getting the chance - .

you have to know what's on her mind, however i think you shouldn't be chasing this because you will force her even more - i think this will become clear over time. we could say she's holding sex back as a shit test - to see if you're changed enough to correspond/comply to her reality. Don't compromise yourself and be the man.... don't get frustrated. Asking would only put her defense up , you need to find the right moment.

_________________
AK-47...When you absolutely positively have to kill every fucking orc in the room
questions about herbal medicine here-vp582526.html#582526

I'm a tad confused, you say that everything in your relationship is fine (bar the lack of sex) however very recently you posted that you were on a "break" after some heated arguing...

I see what you guys are saying. It makes sense. ANd to the last poster - yea we did have a heated argument - but she came to me and apologized because it was a mis understanding and she came to me and told me she was sorry and stuff. So it for-the-most-part is an OK relationship.. besides the recent turn of events (that I am about to post right now in a different post)

_________________
You must first learn how to know before you can know how to learn.