I'm in the Army and I am in Afghanistan right now. I am getting out in June next year (for good). I met this girl on PoF, we talked for about 2 months before I came home and took her out. This is my story...

My question is, "How does she really feel about me? What is she all about? Am I being too emotional about this, becoming too attached? Is this making me look weak?"

Right off the bat you all should know that she (the girl in question) does not want to consider us "exclusive". Now this would be fine if she and I hadn't already had sex, a few times.

It wasn't a one-night stand. It happened while I was home on leave and we spent two weeks together. I stayed over her place 4 times (sleeping in the same bed of course). Went to a hotel with her at the MGM in Detroit and stayed one night. She even met my family and mom (which I think was a bad move). We had a lot of fun too, with activities and such (besides the sex, which was awesome).

Speaking of the sex she said I was the second guy to give her orgasm. The only other one was her b/f of 5 years. She also was willing to do things for me that other guys had to beg her for (oral).

Now from the beginning, she was the one who texted me first on Pof. She also was the one who told me that she wants a long-term relationship. I agreed with her. We used to chat a lot more before I left from leave to come back to Afghanistan. When I got back she immediately spent a lot of time with friends. I sort of objected to this, not directly though. The thing was she just never would tell me who she was hanging out with. She went to Cedar Point and two nights before that she got shitfaced at some party. She wouldn't answer the phone that night (both nights), nor try to text me back. I also called her house, but her mom answered and she never came home until the next night (she told me the next day).

She claims she spent the night at a friend’s and slept on the couch. When she texted me the next day she said she was "tossing and turning all night" (hopefully with no one else). However, my gut tells me differently. There have also been a number of other instances when she answered the phone and then told me to call her back in 10 mins (this was before and after I came back). I would call in 10, but then sometimes she would not answer until about 20. Weird.

Another thing is the fact she goes to the bar every weekend. For what, I don't know. Do all women do this, are they all just airheaded?

There's also the fact that she's on PoF all the damn time. It's like every day. Also when I was home she had all these weird dudes texting her. She didn't try to cover any of those texts up; in fact she showed me, and however she told me a lot of them were from PoF dudes.

Makes me think she lurks on PoF and picks up dudes to bang them, spend their money and leave.

If she was banging another dude I wish she would tell me, it would be easier to move on, (there's another HB who already wants my attention and we've made plans). She says, "I've got no reason to lie to you."

However, she and I had a decent connection when I was home. Nothing bad happened at all, so maybe I made a few mistakes when I told her I thought she was having sex with other dudes.

I basically told her I thought she was just interested in having sex now because she lost so much weight. I know that was a bad thing to say then, but. She used to be heavy and now is slim sexy so I figured maybe she's just using guys because of the ass pain they have caused her before. I have a feeling many women are like this once the right fuckup gets a hold of them.

She was pretty up front with me right before I left and said she didn't want to be "exclusive". I thought after sex (especially a few times) women were supposed to become somewhat attached? She also explained that in the past she become
Attached too "quickly" and winded up getting hurt by tools.

Some other key factors in why I think she might be a "playa" are the fact she owns over 200 pairs of panties. She also has an extensive lingerie collection and continues to add to it daily. She has a pile of condoms in her room by her bed and says she always carries at least one (her reason was in case her friends need some).

Anyways, maybe she's just a hoe, but I would like to think not. I've become much attached to her, even decided to buy her a sweetest day present. Maybe the wrong thing to do... I know she's going to like it, but what do you think? Can you make heads or tails out of this crazy situation?

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[quote="Ominuka"]I'm in the Army and I am in Afghanistan right now. I am getting out in June next year (for good). I met this girl on PoF, we talked for about 2 months before I came home and took her out. This is my story...

My question is, "How does she really feel about me? What is she all about? Am I being too emotional about this, becoming too attached? Is this making me look weak?"

Right off the bat you all should know that she (the girl in question) does not want to consider us "exclusive". Now this would be fine if she and I hadn't already had sex, a few times.

It wasn't a one-night stand. It happened while I was home on leave and we spent two weeks together. I stayed over her place 4 times (sleeping in the same bed of course). Went to a hotel with her at the MGM in Detroit and stayed one night. She even met my family and mom (which I think was a bad move). We had a lot of fun too, with activities and such (besides the sex, which was awesome).

Speaking of the sex she said I was the second guy to give her orgasm. The only other one was her b/f of 5 years. She also was willing to do things for me that other guys had to beg her for (oral).

Now from the beginning, she was the one who texted me first on Pof. She also was the one who told me that she wants a long-term relationship. I agreed with her. We used to chat a lot more before I left from leave to come back to Afghanistan. When I got back she immediately spent a lot of time with friends. I sort of objected to this, not directly though. The thing was she just never would tell me who she was hanging out with. She went to Cedar Point and two nights before that she got shitfaced at some party. She wouldn't answer the phone that night (both nights), nor try to text me back. I also called her house, but her mom answered and she never came home until the next night (she told me the next day).

She claims she spent the night at a friend’s and slept on the couch. When she texted me the next day she said she was "tossing and turning all night" (hopefully with no one else). However, my gut tells me differently. There have also been a number of other instances when she answered the phone and then told me to call her back in 10 mins (this was before and after I came back). I would call in 10, but then sometimes she would not answer until about 20. Weird.

Another thing is the fact she goes to the bar every weekend. For what, I don't know. Do all women do this, are they all just airheaded?

There's also the fact that she's on PoF all the damn time. It's like every day. Also when I was home she had all these weird dudes texting her. She didn't try to cover any of those texts up; in fact she showed me, and however she told me a lot of them were from PoF dudes.

Makes me think she lurks on PoF and picks up dudes to bang them, spend their money and leave.

If she was banging another dude I wish she would tell me, it would be easier to move on, (there's another HB who already wants my attention and we've made plans). She says, "I've got no reason to lie to you."

However, she and I had a decent connection when I was home. Nothing bad happened at all, so maybe I made a few mistakes when I told her I thought she was having sex with other dudes.

I basically told her I thought she was just interested in having sex now because she lost so much weight. I know that was a bad thing to say then, but. She used to be heavy and now is slim sexy so I figured maybe she's just using guys because of the ass pain they have caused her before. I have a feeling many women are like this once the right fuckup gets a hold of them.

She was pretty up front with me right before I left and said she didn't want to be "exclusive". I thought after sex (especially a few times) women were supposed to become somewhat attached? She also explained that in the past she become
Attached too "quickly" and winded up getting hurt by tools.

Some other key factors in why I think she might be a "playa" are the fact she owns over 200 pairs of panties. She also has an extensive lingerie collection and continues to add to it daily. She has a pile of condoms in her room by her bed and says she always carries at least one (her reason was in case her friends need some).

Anyways, maybe she's just a hoe, but I would like to think not. I've become much attached to her, even decided to buy her a sweetest day present. Maybe the wrong thing to do... I know she's going to like it, but what do you think? Can you make heads or tails out of this crazy situation?[/quote]


Hey man, really sorry to hear your story, as to me is strongly sounds like she is seeing other people. Ive been with a girl who is sleeping with loads of guys at a time, but she can be the sweetest most caring girl when she is with any one of them. I am the only guy she is honest with as she knows Im a playa to.

Dont let this annoy you. I listened to David Ds 77 laws program, and his first point changed my life. It was: accept everything and everyone for what they are, recognise what you cannot change.

As for your game, you let this girl walk all over you, you need to control the frame more, eg "she didnt answer for 20 minutes" come on man, you were jumping through her hoops and she knew it. I say this only for future reference, as I would not help you see this girl again.

Just think of all the nightclubs you can get to when home, this girl is nothing to you other than a potential fuck buddy if YOU decide so.

Um, IDK where you got I let her walk all over me. Or many of the crazy things you came up with, but I think I made it clear there are other women readily avaliable to me. After all, she is really far from here, I never wanted to change anything either, something else you felt the need to let me know. Sigh

I guess I'll never know the truth about somene until I can see what they are saying and doing. That is knowing the truth for real. For instance the girl YOU love could be screwing other guys, even if you are faithful, loving, etc. Doesn't matter for anything in this world.

I know that's hard to beleive, but it's true. I merely wanted to see how far I could take this "relationship" while being over here, I'm not attached at all. What's more important to me and please read this clearly, is not really a relationship or the need to absolutely have a girl or else I'm gonna feel like I'm not worthy (like a lot of poor saps do), but see if I can finally get her to spit out the truth.

I haven't been calling her, but I've been calling other people lately. For instance the HB girl (polish) who is ready to do everything and anything I say, literally. This polish girl, is pretty cool, she's really into me, but we'll see how long that lasts.

It is easy to talk with her, but I do enjoy a challenge, because if you never have a challenge you get lazy and then you don't have good game, but rest assured I will never feel sad or upset about a girl who's cheating around on me, because in the end I'll be messing around on her too. This is my, as you call it way of life. No matter how good the relationship gets, there will always be someone else to fall back on, it's just logical networking and women do it all the fucking time

Furthermore, the only reason I'd get in a relationship now is for the way people treat you. If you surround yourself with other people, makes them trust you more, makes you more likeable, when in reality we are all the same. So it's a sociial thing really, but I could keep on having random partners for the rest of my life with no problem.

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WOW, looking over my past posting, what the hell was I thinking? I've changed so much since then. To think I was so worried about a relationship with this chick, who obviously just wanted to have sex.

Anyways, I do appreciate your advice. I kind of let her just use me, for sex. That's fine though.

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