Hey.

Ok, so I recently posted the question "blew my girlfriend's shit test". You guys helped me out a lot and things were good for a bit. However... things went to hell today.. and honestly.. I dont know what to do with this girl of mine. I'd leave her - but beside this whole event (events) lately... she is the most amazing woman I've ever met.

I appologize for the long post.

Today.
I am a personal trainer at a gym. My girlfriend was headed down to the gym and she wanted some advice on workouts - so She asked if I could join her. I told her "sure". So we went down and worked out. She began to complain about all the workouts I was having her do. She either didnt like the style of workout or didnt like the part of the body she was working out. So anyhow.. she throws a bitch fit and says "it's already 3 oclock and we've hardly done anything" (this was due to her complaining and not doing the workouts). She then followed up by saying "you act as if I don't have things to do today."

(WHOA) hold the phone - I'm down there out of the kindness of my hear to try to help her out. And I am getting bit in the ass for it!? Well it continues. Hold on - gets better.

So we walk out and grab our stuff. She tries to tell me how I wasted her time and such. So I tell her to fuck off and that I went out of my way to do this for her and I dont deserve to be treated that way. I told her - frankly I dont like the fact that she THINKS she can treat me that way.

We walk out to her car and she gets in. She asks me what I'm going to do and if I want to come over and I tell her that I have stuff to do at my house but maybe later. She then blows up and says "well I have to go" and slams the door locks it and speeds off with me standing there.

(like I'll ever do anything nice for her again.. yea right).

Ok.. so I go home and do my shit. I decide (stupidly probably) to go and talk with her. So I go to her house and talk with her. She then insults me on several different levels and tells me "no wonder you dont work many hours at the gym - your clients probably hate your workouts and dont want to pay you to do it". She continues to tell me how I am wasting her time talking to me and how this isn't important to her. She then begins to work on something and completely ignores me as I attempt to talk to her. I ended up leaving and telling her to "better think about what you want and how much you care for me - because as of now - the way things are - I'm not going to put up with it".

I leave and we didnt talk again until late this evening. She txted me as is nothing happened. And I told her that that was unnacptable that that she hurt me and never even appologized. She then said "Ilm sorry - and I dont know why I act this way recently... I care about you and I am sorry." (she said this over phone). So that's fine. Before I head to bed I called her back and told her that I was going on a Charity drive tomorrow and we get free tickets to Disneyland. I told her that she should come cuz it will would be a lot of fun and we coud use the tickets this year! She said "no and stop pressuring me" (after I talked to her about the opportunity). I said "Gee coulda said something like 'Thanks for the invite and thinking of me to bring along'"... and she replied with "gee thanks David for trying to pressure me into something I dont want to do!"

I hungup immediately. Told her I tried once again to do something nice and got stung so screw it. I told her it isnt worth it for me to even try to be nice anymore. I then stopped texting and went to bed (to write this).

Please help I dont know what to do with this girl. Ugh. She is amazing beside these past events. Advice? =(

personally i think a freeze out is the way forward here, her behaviour is totally unacceptable and it's unlikely that she'll see this from just being told, it's better for her to see the effects by being ignored. It sounds like you have a busy/active lifestyle so just fill up the next few days with activities so you're not tempted to call/see her. she needs to feel that you'll really walk if she continues behaving like this, or it'll just become the normal thing.

So I tell her to fuck off

*clapping* good for you sir...unfortunately this is the only intelligent thing you did, everything else is wussy behavior.

I am beginning to think you like the abuse because you keep forgiving her and she keeps acting up. What's up with that?

Your initial reaction (telling her to fuck off) was the right thing to do. THAT is the type of mentality you need to have to be successful with women...they act up, put them in their place, period.

Get rid of her...things will not get better.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

She called me to her house today - and we got together. I talked to her. She acted bitchy again - I explained that I got out of a relationship where the girl was a bitch - and why would I step right into another one? Or I would have just stayed with the other girl!

So I told her that I need a few days to think - and unless something changes... I'm done - because I deserve better than that and no self-respecting man is ever going to like her with that attitude.

Then I left and said - "we'll see in a couple days, but for right now... I don't need this in my life".

Bye.

Ugh. Honestly.. if nothing changes - I am done with this girl. She may be an amazing person... but lately... she has been nothing but a straight up bitch.

She called me to her house today - and we got together. I talked to her. She acted bitchy again

Shocker...

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Look on the up side! If she's the most amazing thing you've ever met than you can do SO much better. Get rid of this one. Try to one-up her and get a better girl. Start right away. Read posts on here, go out, talk to girls, get numbers, try new things. Forget about her and have FUN!

Trust me when I say this: IF SHE SUCKS, SHE SUCKS. NO MATTER HOW HOT SHE IS

No offense but most of the guys in here IMO are not correct. You went about this in the wrong way and telling her to screw off was not the proper thing to do because 1. It makes you look like you are having a temper tantrum and you are not in control, and 2. It sparks the wrong kind of emotion with in a women.

How do you deal with women who are ungrateful and acting selfish, and how do you gain control? Well you dont gain control you have control from the start. Being a man means giving up a lot of things that most men do and beleve are the correct way of dealing with women (this is why most men are whiped), It means giving up throwing emotional tantrums to get attention and gain respect.

Women want a man who leads and they can sens fear...If she knew she couldnt get away with this kind of behavour she would never have done it in the first place but she knew she could get a rise out of you. Pick a course and stay on it, stay calm at all times and when she is not acting how you would like, rather then tell her to fuck off you should stay calm, be in control, explain to her that If she want your help that fine but If not dont waste your time, also tell her that you are helping her out of love and you want to help her but she is out of line.

What will happen? she will disagree with you I almost 100% promise you that she will freak out at you! and what do you do? Nothing you act like it doesnt phase you and you push away....you say thats fine hun you dont have to work out with me If you dont want my help. Say in in a calm voice and dont get mad!

Thats it and you dont talk about it any more...she has to learn that she cant get a rise out of you every time she freaks out, and she also has to learn that you wont always give her what she wants. Don’t explain yourself, you lead and she will fallow...She may resist at first, but she’ll love you for it in the end.

The reason she isnt taking advice from you as a personal trainer is because 1. she doesnt respect you enouph, and 2. she doesnt see you in a power position...your not above her you are bellow her....why do clients listen to you when you train them? because they assume you know what you are talking about, they respect you, and you are the athority for that hour in the gym that they are being trained.

See what Im saying?

The most common mistake most men make is freaking out or geting angry with women...always be calm! always walk and say little! ask alot of questions like "why do you feel that way" or "how does that make you feel", you need to understand why a women is acting the way she is before you can solve the problem and If you freak out at her she will just put up a wall and it will get worse.

Always think: stay calm! I am the leader of the pack, I am the rock, I am in contol.

Wow, dark One. You are absolutely right. I act that way in the beginning - but I have let myself slide a bit in the alpha rock male status. Thank you so much for your words. It helped... A LOT.

No Problem man. I remeber I use to freak out at my gf and I couldnt figure out why she would react in such a negative way? so I steped back and realized that my voice tonality, the way I said thing and the way I got angry was sparking all the wrong emotions in her.

Heres the thing that alot of people dont understand and this can be used with your gf or just when dealing with people in general. Its not whats said it is what heard and when somone is freaking out even though what comes out of their mouth is "screw you!" what is heard and seen is "I have no control over this situation so I am frustrated".

Just my two cents..

I hate to try to go backwards and I say this to you becuase Ive been through the same sorts of issues (although this woman seems a lttle extreme), but I think all this talking stuff and giving her ultimatums wont work. She has really pushed her boundaries beyond what is acceptable. So how do you punish?

As dark one seems to suggest, indifference and non-reaction would probably be the key.

But all I can say is personally: no contact, no contact, no contact...i dont think you need to communicate to her how she is acting. She knows how she is acting. She should know that her behavior is ridiculous. Just her freeze-out and litterally move on mentally. Do not call her. Do not text her. Ignore her for a bit. I know this may sound extreme but I'd concentrate on your job, your life and other women. She should have a spidey-sense for this and should get her act in order. If she doesnt, its not like you lost much. She should have been the one coming to your house. She is not acting respectful. (I know this is all easier said than done)

I agree with this guy. Any girl that acts up like that you don't want anyway. She's got issues, you can do better. Let her think about what she did, it will proabably help her more than hurt her.

Let me explain my statement, acting immature, getting angry with her or any such thing is not the right thing to do, obviously. But if she keeps up this behavior as it appears from your post she has been, I wouldn't recommend putting up with it

SHE KNOWS YOU WON'T FREEZE HER OUT !!! Your a wuss and she knows it.......Prove me wrong!! Post her response after you freeze her out for 2 Whole Days...