Well, guys, I have a really weird problem.

I find my girlfriend really beautiful, I honestly can't see any other girl to be more attractive and sexier than her. I know it's love speaking, blah blah.

Anyway, I was in bed with her the other day, and it was the first time I was ever able to cum.

After cumming, I felt a tad depressed and detached from her. Any explanations for this? I just feel like I temporarily stopped loving her, I didn't even want to see her, I wanted her out of my sight. This makes me feel guilty as hell.

A few hours later the feeling is gone, though.

If I cum 20 minutes before she arrives, though, this doesn't happen, so I don't think it is the post-ejaculation lack of sex drive to be causing this.

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Hey man, I used to feel this way when I was in my teens and had just started masturbating. At the time a lot of my mates were experiencing the same emotions as well. The guilt and negative emotions go away after a while. So I think it's just a phase which will probably pass after a few times of having sex.

Personally, I feel very tired and sleepy after ejaculating. It takes an hour or two before my energy levels get fully restored.

It's interesting how you never felt this way when you weren't ejaculating when you had sex in the past.

Lately, I've been hearing a lot about this thing called Tantric Sex, and how it can help you to preserve your energy and love your woman with more intensity/energy/presence/etc.

I haven't had the time to look it into personally, but from what I've heard so far, it sounds promising. Here's a link to an article I just found that explains Tantric Sex in detail: http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex ... icsex.html

Hope this helps.

Might just be thinking through your dick mate. You talk about how sexy and beautiful she is, all about her physical appearance.

When you cum, you go limp and you obviously dont want sex anymore. You dont care for physical appearance anymore, your just tired.

Maybe your relationship is heavily based on physical attraction

Good chance this isnt the case. But I just thought this was and interesting view and wanted to share it LOL =)

I believe this is the most valid point made in the thread.

The fuckbuddies that I have, I find them attractive and sexy, but I have no emotional attachement to them and that is why I feel the same way as you when I cum. I just want them to leave and go to sleep. But I talk to them and cuddle a little to keep them satisfied, they always tell me its sweet that I dont just fall asleep like that.

Hey guys, thanks for the replies.

Our relationship only started to be physical a little later, I wasn't even attracted to her in the begginning. I like her because she's fun, and a fucking loony, I never know what to expect.

Either way, i'm pretty sure it ain't just physical.

It'll go away after a while, I hope!

Thanks for your help.

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Biologically, doesn't the body produce melatonin when you orgasm ? Melatonin is a relaxant, which is why after you ejaculate you feel very mellow/lack of emotion/probably wanting to go to sleep.

Just a thought, maybe your body produdes an abnormal amount of melatonin after you're finished.

The body builds up a bunch of different hormones and neurotransmitters when you are aroused, and dumps them into your body during ejaculation.

One possibility, and I DOUBT any other PUA here would agree with me but still...

It could be that you just have very strong feelings for her body. In the sense that, you are so aroused by her perfection that you feel like youv tarnished it somehow by ejaculating. I remember while growing up, my first love, I couldnt even jerk off to her because I felt like I was lowering her status

just a though

Legacy

better than any drug

Reminds me . . .

Back in college, we were chillin' out on the porch with a few beers and heard some funny noises. . . figured out shortly afterward that a pair of cats were doing the nasty right in front of our house. Ferocious pelvic action . . .

Any how, when they finished, the female rolled over on her back with her feet up in the air and began gyrating back and forth. We figured that it was probably a biological response to draw sperm closer to her reproductive organs.

The male? I don't know that the hell the male was doing because as soon as pulled out, he scrammed the fuck outta there.

Sounds like this
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-coital_tristesse

I had the same thing, and I realized it was because I was afraid of losing her... But I'm not sure if you're going through the same...

Good luck with that, it must be tough :/

Sounds like what I did last night.......

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i sorta have same thing

how come wen i masturbate i cum fast? is this bad?