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| 16394 | PostPosted: Sat Jan 16, 2010 4:54 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Fri Apr 04, 2008 6:33 am Posts: 32 | | Hi dear mates
I have known this girl for 10 months but she has been in an open relationship with me since 3 weeks ago... The problem is she doesn't want to be serious with anyone since she has just came out of an one year relationship with her ex!
I know that she's in an open relationship with somebody else as well... I'm afraid to lose her so i wanna take things to the next level and ask her to be my official gf
As she said, she needs at least 3 months to be able to be serious with anyone else...
considering all these what's the best way to ask her for a serious relationship and obviously 3 months is a really long time and i cant wait so when's the best time to do it?
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| 870 | PostPosted: Sat Jan 16, 2010 5:00 am | |
| Offline | | Homewrecker |  | Joined: Wed Sep 17, 2008 7:09 pm Posts: 1063 Location: Springfield, Missouri, USA | | You need to develop some fucking patience my friend.
The best metaphor I can think of for getting into a relationship comes from Zan, who compared it to a butterfly that lands on your hand. When that happens, you have two choices: try to hold onto it tightly until it either squirms itself to death or you kill it from holding too tight, or just let it be ... and maybe bring a hand up to shield it from the wind.
It's true that in the second scenario there is a possibility the butterfly could fly away, but given the choice between the two that seems like a pretty worthwhile risk.
There is a very Zen like quality to dating and seduction. Push too hard or search too zealously and what you seek will undoubtedly elude you. Relax, sit back and let things happen as they will and you may find that, in the words of the Rolling Stones, "you can't always get what you want, but if you try some times, you just might find, you get what you need."
Your boy,
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| Lodewijkp | PostPosted: Sat Jan 16, 2010 1:04 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Sun Jul 12, 2009 4:11 pm Posts: 1887 Location: Netherlands | | 870 said enough ..... here is a less zen/shambala approach :
3 weeks .... and you want to be serious ... DUDE only 3 weeks.
she's in a open relationship lol did you even met the guy or are you resuming she is telling the truth lol.. what is she really like ?
afraid of losing her ? Even if you have a serious relationship she could cheat or walk away , you haven't got anything so stop being insecure !
You want something from her that's obvious because you don't have any patience and you try to find a alternative way to rush into a relationship. by posting in this forum you are already disprespecting her wishes, 3 months isn't a long time don't you got anything to do ? just treat the relationship like it is right now.. not seriously.
You are either angry and deciding to break this whole thing of because she's still in a open relationship or you are insecure about yourself and want to ''own'' her, in either way you are acting out of greed, impatience, jealousy. Do you really think she's that important .. wake the fuck up because you are important - i would walk up to her and tell her i could have a relationship after 4 months. ( instead of her 3 lol ) _________________ AK-47...When you absolutely positively have to kill every fucking orc in the room
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