I went to visit my girl here in new year, for 8 days..

It was heaven.. everything i could imagine - and more..

But now that i'm home again... txting her bores me, writing on msn - no fun..
skyping.. dont know what to say.. everything has become.. dull..

The distance is killing us, and i need help how to keep it up..

Perhaps we are talking to often..

We SPAM everyday, sometime twice..

Today i went to a frozen lake, and made a big heart, with our names on it..
then i went on a bridge, and took a photo of it.. and i mailed it to her..

.. i thought it would have helped.. and she loved it.. but then after 10 mins, back again...

I'm really trying here..

Tonight she just went from SPAM saying "okay, im going, goodnight"..

I think i'm gonna have a break tomorrow from her, i think we need a day or two alone..

The problem is also, that her parents dont want her to come visit me.. if i'm lucky i'm going to see her at easter (thats a fuckload of waiting).. shit..


I need help.. i seriously love her, when we are together, but i just dont feel it from here..

She texted me saying

"I'm sorry how it went tonight, sorry i reacted like that... i think it's best if i change a couple of things, sweet night ste (nickname)"

I think its best if i change a couple of things.. wtf??

Anyway, i didnt know what to respond.. took me 40 mins.. just said

"Okay.. i will give you some space, good night"

This depends on alot of things! first of all how long have you been with her? second I think the both of you talk way to much! you need to get hobbies out side of the relationship this is why you are so bored!

Im have been with my gf for a year now and I just moved 2 hours away. I talk to her on the phone only about 2-3 times a week but we txt ever day afew times (how was your day?, good night) those types of things....there is only so much you can talk about over the phone or internet before it geting boring.

We also agree that we will travel to see each other atleast once a month each. when we hang out we catch up, have fun, sex, ect ect....

If you dont see a future with the girl then end it...I plan on geting married to my gf in a few years so for me it only makes sens to keep things going until she moves in.

Officially we have only been together for two weeks.. But.. well it's complicated..

I met her in the summer 2008, then at march 09 we had been talking, untill i saw her at august 09, when i kiss her the last night.. a month later we shared our feelings for eachother, so september / october.. but i wanted to wait untill i saw her, which was december 09..
So officially together for two weeks, but we started acting like being in a relationship for 3-4 months.. and we had known eachother for a year...

I think it was kinda friend to girlfriend hehe..

We love eachother.. and i actually think about taking it to marriage.. or atleast try to see how far it goes.. and she feels the same..

It's a very serious relationship.

I will cut down the speaking time you are right..

But she calls me on SPAM, and i didnt have the guts to tell her "listen, we talk too much, lets talk tomorrow"

I will talk about it with her soon, she will understand... heck, that "gotta change something" must be about we talk too much..

Thanks ..

we talked about it and it's all good now..

I thought about it in school..

and i found out why i was cold.. and i told her.. she understood..

we just need to make it together we said.. .. .. so it's gonna get better now..

high five

Thats a tough one! you both are in a new relationship so distance is just about the worst thing you can do to it. I would be afraid that you dont know her well enouph and she doesnt know you well enouph to keep things strong from far away.

Just gotta see it through

That's good everything worked out; do you think that the talking too much was the issue and you just didn't have anything to share with each other because you kept in contact so much?

I met a girl this summer, we hit it off 3 days prior to her leaving for a 6 week college program 5 hours away from our hometown and things went well then, I actually visited a day twice. Then she came back for 2 weeks before I left home for school in DC, 6 hours away and it fell apart there.

We had some road bump issues we were fighting about that kind of wore her out, so even though we resolved it she thought it was best to end it because our life paths weren't congruent and we're talking again now but I'm not even sure what I want. Have you guys discussed where you want to see things end up eventually, that is, getting it back to a normal relationship, no more LDR?

Good for you though, I hope it works out.