before vacation everything was perfect and I knew she liked me a lot and even a couple days into vacation things were going good then all of a sudden she began to text/call a little less and stopped calling me babe/baby and saying love you in her texts..is this a sign of something? what can I do to get her back to where we were before? should i stop being as affectionate in texts as well and see what happens? thanks guys

If she gets "lazy", you need to make her work..

Just dont give her anything.. dont just call call call txt txt compliment her, say sweet things to her... Cause then she gets used to it.. and then she doesent need to call txt compliment you, cause you already give her what she wants..

Call and text her less.. dont call her baby, but call her like fufu or something haha..

She will then start to work for it

yeah, you need to cool it with her slightly. this isn't good behaviour from her so don't reward it i think the worst thing to do in this situation is to carry on giving her the same attention/affection as when she was returning it. don't initiate anything for a while, turn the balance

ok sounds good, but should I address this with her at all, meaning say something to her? or just dont say anything but show less affection?

Dont say anything.. because even if you say something.. i think she will most likely pretend like she doesent know what you are talking about.. so just slow down with the sweet words, and with the calls a bit..

Don't address it dude.
Most love is built on ego and rejection. If she isn't getting the same affection she once was, she will want it back. Don't address it as you will seem needy.
Had something similar recently and the only way it worked was me drawing a line under everything. Its tough, but the less you care the more they do, and vice versa.

Go for it brother.

ok got it guys, last question though..say I give it a week and she doesnt go back to speaking to me like she used to? whats next after that..thanks guys

she will.. if not..

there might be something else wrong

then address it I guess?

start thinking about what to do about it when you first tried to calm down with her a bit...

what if this what if that wont help ya..

Just follow our advice for now..


But yes, if that wont do it... perhaps the relationship is getting flaccid? hehe..
try to spice it up a bit.. driver her crazy again.. perhaps she needs that

and how should I do this? I guess this is a good sign..she noticed that I dont say love you when hanging up on the phone anymore and she asked me why I havent said it in a while and she said it first..she then told me that she doesnt say love you first, I dont know why though..what should I say about that..

I agree with Bimm3r, spice it up and drive her crazy. it seems like the relastionship is getting boring for her, so have some crazy fun together..

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how do I go about spicing things up with her?

Hi everybody,

I'm as trapped as trappinu but in a distance relationship has not been returning my texts or called me. I'm currently freezing her out, see where it leads us.

How do you spice up a relationship when things kinda slow down? (No more calls or texts for which I'm tired to initiate, she used to at first but then it was me).

Today, I didn't text her at all and she did in the evening (I know we are not in the same time zone) but still she told me she was going to a class and asked me what I was doing to which I simply answered to the question where I would usually say that I missed her which is true but I think she has to work and not get lazy.

Is it the right thing to do?

And also what to do if it turns out to be a long period without contacts and she comes asking me why I'm not calling or texting her anymore?