| Sorry in advance for the lengthyness. But ill try to cut it down
This is a situation my cousins friend is currently in, and I want to know what other advice I can give him.
First off, hes been with his gf for 6 months. Hes 18 and shes 17. The guy does not love her yet and she knows, and the girl may possibly love him. They see eachother not too often, have been through all bases.
He told me a story of how his gf was going to committ suicide because of family problems, school stresses and such. She is diagnosed with depression, mild. She decided not to go through with it of course. She didnt go through with it becuase as she was preparing herself for suicide she thought about medical miracles, and horrific accidents where people seem to get out of fine.
The problem is, he was thinking about possibly breaking up with her becuase he was thinking the relationship would not go anywhere. However, is scared that he might contribute to her depression, triggering another suicide attempt.
My advice to him was not really much advice, more of another view on the situation without blindness from his emotion, just from raw facts. I told him first off, he should think long and hard before he even thinks of moving a finger. I mean, this is a delicate situation where your priority is keeping the girl safe, not yourself.
However, her attempt at committing suicide has absolutly NOTHING to do with him. It wasn't caused by his lack of love for her, problems in their relationship, nothing about him. Asking the question: "how significant is he in her life. And would a breakup be that significant to her depression?"
But in saying that, I believe that in all faithful relationships, the girl does seek some comfort from the male, feels a little more secure, no matter how serious/non-serious the relationship is, even if they're very distant.
Yeah I confused him, but the more he thinks about it, the more he assesses the situation, the better his decision will be.
So yeah, i told him to talk to her more, talk to her about her depression, and of course persuade professional help, becuase obviously a suicide attempt isnt going to be fixed with hot chocolate and talking.
So yeah, please leave comments. Did I give the right advice?
I will consider all advice given, and the ones I deem appropriate, i will transfer to him.
Thanks!
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