NOTE: For the people who have given me sound advice on my last relationship (my screen name is easily searchable), know that this question is truly from my past a long time ago and not some lame way to get a second opinion about a current situation. Just so you know I'm following your advice

When it comes to trying to reconnect with an ex after a couple of months and you find out (before reconnecting) that she has a new AFC boyfriend, what's your best course of action? Do you reconnect and perform "boyfriend destroyers" or is it best to go my own way until they break up to reconnect?

How long have they been going out? Have you met the guy? And..have you been in contact with her lately?

If it's relatively new and you haven't had any contact I would say go for BF destroyer mode, but go slow.

If you have had contact, test the waters with her first(flirt thru text, "friendly" coffee "date") and if that goes well, BF destroyer fast.

If she's been with him for awhile...forget about it and move on(honestly that's what I would do anyways). If you REALLY want her, pull a girl and try to make your ex jealous