| Ok, i have a situation i am totally unfamiliar with and would appreciate some advice from you guys.
I am 30, have had numerous girlfriends and do pretty well with women. However i am reaching the stage where i am looking for something 'more'. So along comes a girl, lets call her 'S'.
'S' is great, 35, hot, funny, intelligent and shares a lot of my interests. Cut a long story short i think she is pretty special. We hung out a couple of times and i played it very cool, didn't want to spook her as i feel her previous relationships left her severely cautious.
Then the other night, bam, 1st kiss, she says i am gorgeous, wonderful etc. Again, i'm really respectful, clearly stoked and return the compliments and after a smooch or two more head home as we both had work early.
Then this week we texted a few times and today we're supposed to hang out, but i get a message saying somethign like this:
"I really like you, i wanted to say this tonight, but am rushed off my feet and won't make the date. I can only handle us beinbg friends, i need to be single right now and the age gap and the different stages in our life would make things too hard etc etc"
You get the idea.
So i leave it a couple of hours and call....told her its a shame and i think she might be judging a book by its cover a little. You see i am in a band...i look like i am in a band, and she really has not been round people like that before. However i am really not that much a rock n roller. I have a brain, i have a strong sensitive side and i know she'd like it, but i think she has pre-judged it.
Anyway she said on the phone that the timing isnt right and we should still hang later tonight, but she is a very honest person and just wanted to get it out the way. She has a lot on her plate and is SUPER cautious. So there it is i am off to hang out and she even offered me the spare bed in case i want to drink with her.
What do i do? What is going on? Usually if i like someone it all just comes too easy! I actually like this girl and im so aware she has me on a string right now, but it could break SO easily.
Don;t tell me what i did wrong..tell me what to do to sort this out.
Oh and i'm typing this on a broken keyboard so sorry for errors and please ask questions if the situation isn't clear.
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