Hi guys,

I can't help being jealous of other guys gf's/wives. I've been with my gf for over a year now and she is fat, wears big glasses and she never dresses feminine. I want her to wear dresses, heels etc so she can look more feminne and for me to be more attracted to her. However, she wears trainers, jeans and she never listens to me that i want her to dress more feminine. Even if i buy her a dress and heels she still won't wear them and has excuses to not wear them. Her friends are also fat and they dress feminine!

Yesterday i went out xmas shopping with her and i couldn't help notice all the ugly, fat guys with beautiful looking gf's and here i was looking good, in shape and not ugly with an ugly looking fatty and i couldn't be more jealous.

I just went on facebook and looked at my friends from school and they are married to nice looking girls and have got kids with them. My school friends are uglier than me and have awful personalities. One of them even hit his future wife in front of everyone at his birthday party and she soon forgave him! So it seems if you treat the girl like shit they love you more for it!

I do love my gf but at the same time i get jealous looking at other people's gf's so what should i say to her?

Sorry for the rant but im majorly pissed right now!

Also, is there any way to stop me being jealous? I even look at my cousins/bros gfs and can't help be jealous at the fact their gf's are nice and mines not.

Thanks!

Read a little 30 page book called "Be relentless" by David X.

You are most important in your relationship, and you're obviously unhappy even though you love your girlfriend. You're just not attracted to her anymore.
Be brutally honest. Tell her you're not attracted to her anymore, because she looks like she's not even trying for you anymore, while you are in shape still. Tell her you still love her but the attraction is gone.

Sure she'll cry, sure she'll get mad. But you want to be happy right? This is the only way of putting it, just, brutally. fucking. honest.

The question remains though, do you think it will make your relationship like it used to be again? If she loses weight/dresses more feminine, or tries harder? Will that make you happy?

Maybe you're not really that happy with her, maybe you dont really love her anymore, you're just used to her. Think about this for yourself, if you realise you're not that into her anymore, then you should end it.

Best of luck, i'd be happy to hear how it went or what you decided to do bro.

Chillburg

I agree with Chillburg. It seems maybe you love her because of everything you have shared so you feel a special closeness there but I think you are not in love with her anymore. I think it might be time for a break to re-evaluate your feelings for her. If you don't, maybe one night when you are out and a hot girl pays attention to you then you will cheat. And that's not fair on your gf.

do things for yourself, you know just work on ur inner game a bit.

telling a girl they're unattractive is like a girl telling you that you're a pussy. so you could say that the way she dresses is very unattractive and that you expect more from her. say this in a firm voice, she might still get pissed off though but its worth it cuz you'll be standing your ground and thats what you need. once you take charge of your life you'll seem not to get jealous as easily, and who knows maybe you will move to a hotter chick.