I'm dating a virgin. She is not closed/scared of sex, but she hasn't done it (obviously), and wants to wait/is unsure SPAM.
1) while I can get other girls, but I would prefer sticking with her because
a) I am in a hectic time in my life right now and want a steady gf
b) I like her a lot
2) I have made it clear to her that I want sex, but am willing to wait for her (but not forever/too long (more than a couple of months)), which is completely true.
3) She says that she can't say when she is ready, but is not scared of the idea.

So my question is, can I get her to have sex, and if so, what would be the best way to approach it (I don`t want to force her, but I do want to push her in the right direction).
Also, are there any ways to test if she actually is not afraid of sex (ie. is willing to have sex in future).
Thanks

The best thing is just to wait it out, you seem to respect her opinion which is good, maybe she is slightly afraid, it's a big thing! but the less you push her into it, the more at ease and comfortable she'll feel with doing it.

Make her feel loved, respected and don't seem like your desperate to fuck the back off her and she'll see that and open up over time, you seem like a nice guy so just gain her trust, be patient and it will come.

There isn't really anything in particular that you can do to make it happen faster, tease her and get sexual a lot, just be very intimate whenever you can and when she's ready it'll naturally lead to something more.

It seems like your both very open talking about it so your heading in the right direction, she's told you what she wants so now its just a case of giving her that and being patient.

Keep treating her well, she'll come round and it will have been worth the wait!

Good luck!

1. maybe she isn't virgin , she is just testing you out how you are and how you react.
she probably wants a serious relationships and is testing you

2. she is virgin

i agree with Jsolo, still you have to make the first move because she never will put that in your brain.
she has to be familiar with your touch so go kino the shit out of her, touch her ass while kissing and touch her inside leg while kissing on the sofa.

what i often see is that guys don't kino enough... the girl is ready but somehow everything feels awkward and unnatural.

touch her on various body areas ... this way you can find out which spots she like to get touched.

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how old is the girl?

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She can't help it.

The girl is 18, turning 19 in a month.

I am 99% sure that she is telling the truth about being a virgin, and yeah, I think I will stick with her.

However, I am pretty sure she won`t be willing to have sex anytime soon (within the next month or two), so I was wondering what should I do to make her more comfortable with the idea. Escalating kino and progressively getting her clothes off is obvious, but is there anything elseÉ

im pretty much in the same boat as you

been with a girl for 2months+ now
just talking from this experience, i believe its about baby steps.

You can get her to have sex. you said shes not scared of the idea. Itll all be eleviated with time

Everything you do to her will most likely be a new experience, so you have to make it special and you have to make her feel loved/special.
you need to get her comfortable with you, and comfortable with the things you do with/to her. eg touching breasts outside of clothes, then inside. touching downstairs outside of clothes then inside. It took me a while to make her comfortable touching downstairs.

Since shes a virgin, she may very possibly feel selfconscious about her body, make you assure her that shes beautiful to you (look into her eyes when you say this). Just be very affectionate and loving.

just talking for my experience, all girls are different. But i assure you, you situation will fix itself with time. just enjoy her company mate. you like her, you wanna settle with her. Dont keep sex in the back of your mind constantly, itll show through your actions. just enjoy her company mate.

All the best

I absolutly agree with the previous post, don't be suggestive about sex, she knows you want it, just play it cool and have fun, give her space and the time that she wants and she'll come to you, maybe even quicker than you think. But don't give her too much space, otherwise you'll seem too distant.

Good Luck

Ok ok ok HOLD ON! Listen man you need to really think hard about what you want because from the sounds of things you are being a little selfish.

Finding a women who respects her self and her body enouph to hold out until she is ready and meets somone speacial is veryvery rare! and you have found a girl who prob has very little bagage and who has very high morals! this is a good thing!

If she isint ready then you need to respect that and not bring it up until she is ready to bring it up....you know what will end up happening? she will end up having sex with you because you want it and not because she does and then she will resent you for it...her friend time wont be speacial and she will feel used.

Remeber a relationship isint just about you and her virginity is part of who she is so dont be selfish. Wait until she is ready and dont make her feel bad about sex...dont make her feel like she is bad for not having it yet and with time she will open up to you.

P.S My gf was not a virgin when we met...she is a wonderful, smart, beautiful girl, and I love her to death but she has low self esteem and her father treated her like shit which is why I feel like she had sex so young and so often before we met....I really do wish I could have been my gf's first and made it speacial for her! but those are the cards I was dealt...any way its rare to find a girl who thinks so highly ofher self that she wants to hold out until she is ready and meets somone speacial! so dont fuck it up! lol

i call girls squares and such to make fun of their "angel" side. idk if this really works in a relationship but i make jokes about them having virgin ears and eyes (R rated movies) which leads to virgin mouth haha. but u get the point, maybe you could tease her about her "angel" side.

again i use this after a few times ive hung out with the girl, she tends to prove to me she's not as square as she appears to be under my eyes. this could be helpful to get in the bedroom. in a relationship you could prolly tease her a couple times for it.

also, escalate the kino to make her comftorable around ur touch and when ur in a make out session touch her erogenous zones to escalate the kino furthermore.

what he said..



She will have sex with you not cause she want but because you want..
and ur nuts will be so full, that you give her the worst sex.. and she will hate you for it.. that it would suck so much.. that she gave so much to you...

just wait.. go wank instead