I met this girl in my college who's pretty shy and I have gotten deeply in love with her. It's not because of her looks or anything, it's because i like her for who she is.

I've known her for 2 months now and we always talk in person during class time and sometimes 4 hours of msn a night. I spent a lot of time understanding and knowing her so recently I asked her out on a date. She replied that she's not interested in a relationship with anyone at the moment and that she didn't want to lead me on. I felt that she had feelings for me but i guess not ..... Well we still talk a lot with each other, and nothing "awkward" has happened, it seems like i never even asked. She sits we me rather than the 2 other guys who also like her in the class and she recently asked me to study my finals with her.

I don't want to give her up, because i truly love her too much. I'm not forcing her to like me hence i don't stalk her or anything, I just pretend im her normal guy friend even though im mad in love with her.

I know the logic of this matter is to move on, but my feelings are out of control for her. Is there any subtle methods to show that I'm serious about her, and to change her mind about me so that she could give me a second chance without actually having me tell her that, cause that might creep her out.

Thanks for your generous help people!!!!

so just my opinion, but i think she has been pretty clear. imo your best move would be to hang out with and date other girls. if she really likes you she will let you know by being extra friendly, making physical contact, etc. to try to get you back. this is the only SUBTLE way i can think of. its not an easy path but best i can think of that wont creep her out.

you could be just her "safe" friend. she could be a lesbian? she could be not attracted to you. who knows. i would just move on, focus on her negatives, hang out with other girls. good luck and i know its a sucky feeling right now.

Dude I can't tell you how many times I have been in this situation when I was in college. I found the best thing that works is to show them that you are a confident guy. Take her out to a coffee shop. Open doors for her. Girls fucking love this! When she orders her drink. Don't pay for it. Bust her balls a little bit. When you're stuying you can tease her by saying don't you remember anything sitting next to me? Just tease and push her. It's surely counterintuitive but girls love it. Try not to get mushy with her. She's gonna want a strong confident man. Hope this helps and best of luck on the girl and finals. If it doesn't work college is the BEST place to find honeydips!