I see so many guys in here asking what went wrong? or how do they keep their gf's happy, or "am I to nice?" ect ect. This is for you guys...this is a guide to keeping your gf happy and content and a guide one how to keep the upper hand in your relationship.


1. Have boundaries: Every one has expectations or morals, every one has things that they stand for and things that they dislike. After being with my gf for almost a year and dating alot of other women I have found that in order to gain respect you need to have bounaries! You need to always speak your mind and always be ready to stand up for what you beleve in! alpha males dont let women walk all over them they stand up to women when they dont agree or If they think somthing is wrong.

2. Always stay calm and keep composure: You should almost never raise your voice or seem angry when confronting a women. Why? well have you ever watched the the dog whisperer? In the show ceaser the dog trainer always says "You need to be in a calm assertive state so that the dog stay calm and you are in control"...people are the same way! If you try to confront somone or talk to them and you raise your voice and seem frustrated they will feel like they are in control and you will look weak. 95% of what you say is how you says it...you always need to stay calm and firm when confronting a women.

3. reward her when shes being good: Use some push pull. When she is acting the way you want then you should spoil her! treat her like gold! buy her flowers for no reason, cuddle with her, take her to dinner, wright her a poem ect ect....but when she starts shit testing you or treating you poorly you should push away fast! be stern and put her in her place and dont give her the luxury of hanging out with you...I personly went as far as telling my gf "If I ever seem less loving and seem like a dont give a shit it is because you arnt respecting me" She now knows that when she treats me well she will be treated like a princess but when she acts up she will be treated like shit.

4. Learn what she likes in bed!!!!: Sex isnt everything but it is very important! Women un like men have a harder time finding somone who they are sexualy compatible with and If you can make her feel like a women in bed, be able to get make her cum, ect ect she will be willing to do almost anything for you! lol Good sex makes a women feel closer to you and it somthing special the two of you share.

5. Be fun! be a goof...most men are to worried about looking un cool but honestly when you can make a fool of your self in public and laugh she will love you for it! I will somtimes do the dumbest shit in public.... Once I start dancing in wall Mart with my gf and her face turned bright red...she was so embarrassed! but she had a big smile on her face and she coulnt stop laughing. Its better to be the fun, confident, Spontaneous, goofy, bf then the boring bf who was no fun....she will remeber little moments like that for the rest of her life.

6. communicate and listen: Men and women are very diffrent when it comes to problems....women want to just vent and talk about problems, and men always want to be logical and fix the problem right away! When your gf comes to you with a problem you cant expect to fix it right away! you need to listen and ask questions even if the problem is about you. Here are a couple examples:

Her: Im upset!
you: What's wrong come sit down and lets talk about it.
Her: I dont like my job it sucks!
You: Why does it suck?
Her: My manager got mad at me today.
You: How did that make you feel?
Her: I was so mad ect ect ect...........
You: Come here give me a hug, its sounds like you had a hard day at work how can I make it easier on you?

See logicaly us men would want to say "just quit If your not happy" But she doesnt want you to fix her problems she just wants to vent and wants you to listen...If she wants you to fix somthing then she will ask for your help. The same applies If she is mad about somthing you did....dont snap back just be calm and let her talk...listen and then when she is done you tell her whats on your mind.

I hope I could clear some things up for some of you guys and help to make your relationships a bit stronger. Good luck!
You:

Hey man, thanks for these they're good !

Few questions:

1) This is Universal for all girls, right ? So what if you haven't been doing one of the 6 so far. Would it still be OK to start doing them, might show some incongruence but if all women want it, it's better to change in that way, correct ?

2) For 6) What if your girl doesn't like to Open up and just seems down. Before I've just been handling it by making sure she knows 'I'm here if you need to talk about it' and if they insist nothing is wrong they just feel down, I've tried to eject, saying 'I'll let you have some space' or something - is this right ?

3) For 1) What kinda boundries are we talking about here ? Behaviour you don't like ? Like if your girl ignores a text, how would you deal with that if you didn't like that you didn't get a reply ?

Thanks man.

This is actually good relationship advice in general, for girls as well as guys--

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regarding your first question no its not to late to start. It might be a little harder for your gf to adjust to your new attitude...If you never stood up to her before and then out of no were you start being more alpha and you start standing up for your self she will start to shit test you like crazy but with time she will learn she needs to treat you with respect or you will break up with her. Alot of her shit tests will prob be starting fights and bossing you around but if you stand up to her and let her know you wont have any of it then with time things will get better. Think of it like trying to discipline a spoiled child...at first the child will resist and rebel but with time they will learn that they will only get what they want when they behave.

Regarding your second question yes you cant make somone talk if they dont want to. Just say "its ok if you need time to think, when your ready or If you need time to talk Im here" then go do somthing eles....most women want you to feel bad for them...dont! just go do your own thing and when she is ready she will talk. Often women are so emotional they dont know whats wrong and they actually do need time to figure out wtf is wrong with them lol

As for your last question it really can be anything. boundaries are diffrent depending on the person...If your gf is being bitchy and bossing you around you should be calm and tell her you dont deserve to be treated like that, If she gets mad then let her...walk out on her and go do your own thing. If you dont want her hanging alone with other guys make it clear that its not ok...ect ect. It can really be anything you want but just make sure that when she does what you want you reward her. This part kind of ties in with push pull...