Hey all, hope you could help me out with some issues I have with this chick I'm seeing!

I went to school with this chick for 3 years a long time ago, and we have alot of mutual friends, so we have been meeting a couple of times a year, just saying hello, not realy talking alot, however. This summer we got to know eachother much better and I got a very good impression of her, pretty sure it was likewise. We meet a month later on a quiz with some friends and we hit it off very well.

We had a couple of dates over the following month and a half, and things was going great. We didn't meet too often, and we usually ended up in my bed just fooling around.

Now; Here's my problem: For the last 2 weeks we haven't seen eachother, we both got jobs, studies, training etc so we are both pretty busy from time to time. I've suggested a few dates we could go out and have fun, but it usually ends up with her saying she got some shit he has to do a day in advance. I was okey with it, just playing it cool. But now it has started to get annoying, and I feel she is getting cold on me....

Worst thing is that I have NO IDEA why! Eveytime we have been together has been awesome, and she seems very much happy and safe with me.

Hope I'm just overreacting, or being a fool because she is a very sweet girl and I hope we can make it work.

Please someone shed some light over this issue, would mean the world to me. Thank you!

Women are great actors. She might not like you as much as you think. There are a lot of women out there who feel obligated to act like they like people when they don't. They are masters of manipulation. I have been burned incase you can't tell.

That's fine, whatever. So make the girl work for you attention. I know this is really hard to do, but you have to establish a social circle and maintain it. You have to invite people out often, and regularly. You have to be not affraid of rejection, and people will come if you are persistant, don't take offensive if you are declined.

After you build a healthy social circle you will have more options when it comes to women. You will be able to choose from your circle instead of just chasing after one. From my experience most attractive girls have tons of things to do. They are always being hit up all the time because they are such good manipulators. They are so nice and beautiful and they have men throwing parties and other things at them. If you want to make a girl work for you, you have to have other options. A social circle is a good way to establish other options. It can be a pain in the ass, but it is so important to make time for friends. Even if they go out and drink a lot.

I am at a dilema. When my friends want to go out on the weekdays to drink I don't go because I don't want to be drunk, but if I was invited to a large group of people I would go because being drunk to make more friends would be acceptable. But being drunk for one friend is a waste of my time. I see now why it is hard for me to maintain soical circles. I can be as successfull as I want to be at school and work, but when it comes to relationships I lack serious disipline. I see know what is required of me. It's important to have a social life. A social life is one of three key areas of life that need respect. Health, wealth, relationships, and relationships have always suffered in my life. So right now i am working on relationships and sacraficing wealth. I think it might be better to just work on relationships instead.

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Thanks for an uplifting answer Magnum!

Luckily I do have alot of social circles I can move in and out of. I got alot of friends and I'm general a very social guy. I think for the next week or more I'll just let things go as they do, I'll lower my expectations so I wont get hurt and hope she will turn around, if not: Her loss.

I do however hope she didn't just act when we were together, that would had been a mother** blow to my mind and confidence. But I have already set my mind to believe that I will go out stronger than before whatever happens!

Thanks again for an answer, hope everything turns out good for you mate!